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How do you guys deal with paying for dates when it’s really cheap like coffee? Say it’s a situation where you order at a takeout counter and she’s still deciding on a order. So I choose my $4 beverage. Do you go ahead and pay for yourself then leave her to it? Plus the barista will be assuming it’s going together. The whole thing feels awkward and a lot different than getting a larger lunch bill at the table where you can suggest splitting it, giving her some cash and having her pay the whole thing with card, etc.
I find if I lead the girl in front of me a bit so she orders first, she’ll often end up paying for me since she’s there standing at the counter while I’m a foot away or so.
It just seems if you’re dealing in small dollar values, it seems like it almost shines too much or a light on how adamant you are about bill splitting. And on a first date I don’t want to say something like I’ll get you next time, etc.
Does anyone have a process to follow that can make it a little more seamless? I want to avoid both provider-signalling and forcing some awkward anti-provider frame.
Maybe I’m overthinking it, but this seems like something that will be present in almost every first date I’ll ever have. I don’t drink, so there’s no “next round”. It’s just a $10 total bill between two people.
I find if I lead the girl in front of me a bit so she orders first, she’ll often end up paying for me since she’s there standing at the counter while I’m a foot away or so.
It just seems if you’re dealing in small dollar values, it seems like it almost shines too much or a light on how adamant you are about bill splitting. And on a first date I don’t want to say something like I’ll get you next time, etc.
Does anyone have a process to follow that can make it a little more seamless? I want to avoid both provider-signalling and forcing some awkward anti-provider frame.
Maybe I’m overthinking it, but this seems like something that will be present in almost every first date I’ll ever have. I don’t drink, so there’s no “next round”. It’s just a $10 total bill between two people.