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Hello Guys,
i have had this relationship for like 2.5-3 months but recently i do not really know how to deal with it and what to do. The girls is 7 years older than me and her ex broke her heart very badly. At the beginning she said that she was very much afraid to have another relationship but we agreed to try and see what will happen. Moreover this girl is very sensitive and when she has some personal issues or depression, she closes into herself, we might not see each other for 2 weeks and such stuff. we chat almost daily so we keep some kind of contact but i do not perceive this as a contact, i have to see her eyes. When we have sex she is a different person in the next few days, loving, caring etc. Then she goes into this bad mood, and i try to drag her out, i say lets see each other and she often refuses, though i have the feeling she wants to see me, but refuses because she is afraid she will get too attached to me and i will break her heart again. Maybe i come off as needy but i do not find it normal to see her once every 10days. So sex seems kind of key point but we see each other very rarely. This week she is in horrible mood. I called her, she did not answer nor replied later. 2 days later i skyped her, whats going on she said i am kind of depressed. I said lets have some positive emotions and inclined sex. She was like - is this the only thing you think about. That i was thinking as a teenager and such staff. I replied no, and said that its fine for me to see a movie and to hug each other, something along the lines. she did not respond. i wrote to contact me when shes in better mood. She did not even say goodbye. this is the first time she does not answer...I do want to be with this girl but i am on the edge, i even start to think of dating other girls. I met one girl on Saturday and she made me feel very special, while this girl i put a lot of effort in but very little comes out of it. She has no other guys, just to clarify. So what are your thoughts guys? Should i just give her space and not contact her for some amount of time, or just leave her. Thanks
i have had this relationship for like 2.5-3 months but recently i do not really know how to deal with it and what to do. The girls is 7 years older than me and her ex broke her heart very badly. At the beginning she said that she was very much afraid to have another relationship but we agreed to try and see what will happen. Moreover this girl is very sensitive and when she has some personal issues or depression, she closes into herself, we might not see each other for 2 weeks and such stuff. we chat almost daily so we keep some kind of contact but i do not perceive this as a contact, i have to see her eyes. When we have sex she is a different person in the next few days, loving, caring etc. Then she goes into this bad mood, and i try to drag her out, i say lets see each other and she often refuses, though i have the feeling she wants to see me, but refuses because she is afraid she will get too attached to me and i will break her heart again. Maybe i come off as needy but i do not find it normal to see her once every 10days. So sex seems kind of key point but we see each other very rarely. This week she is in horrible mood. I called her, she did not answer nor replied later. 2 days later i skyped her, whats going on she said i am kind of depressed. I said lets have some positive emotions and inclined sex. She was like - is this the only thing you think about. That i was thinking as a teenager and such staff. I replied no, and said that its fine for me to see a movie and to hug each other, something along the lines. she did not respond. i wrote to contact me when shes in better mood. She did not even say goodbye. this is the first time she does not answer...I do want to be with this girl but i am on the edge, i even start to think of dating other girls. I met one girl on Saturday and she made me feel very special, while this girl i put a lot of effort in but very little comes out of it. She has no other guys, just to clarify. So what are your thoughts guys? Should i just give her space and not contact her for some amount of time, or just leave her. Thanks
