How to display preselection without coming across as a playboy?

[Calibration]

I'm starting to realize that I've lost a lot of girls coming across as a playboy when displaying preselection. Although I do it very subtly, girls are smart to pick up playerish vibes and it hurts my game causing attainability issues. Also, I meet them through cold approach. So, they'd think that I have a lot of girls and they're just one of the number and don't think they're any special. How can I balance being playful/flirtatious and talk about other girls and also sex talk and not come across as a player?

 

[Fuck This]

By being social with guys as well as women. When you are in a venue, and have other fellas recognize you, call you by name, and come greet you. Never make a woman feel alone in your presence. relate all of your playful flirtations to her not you and your ability with women. Some things just sound like BS you say to women. instead be more genuine and listen more than you talk.

 

[Calibration]

By being social with guys as well as women. When you are in a venue, and have other fellas recognize you, call you by name, and come greet you. Never make a woman feel alone in your presence. relate all of your playful flirtations to her not you and your ability with women. Some things just sound like BS you say to women. instead be more genuine and listen more than you talk.

I should've specified Daygame when I said cold approach. There's no social proof in Daygame. She'll base off of what I say mostly.

 

[HoofHearted]

Is this a real thing, or in your mind?

You can be 'pre-selected' without any flirty or sexual overtones. You can be 'pre-selected' by having good vibes or being manly or attractive to other people.

I do it all the time. In fact, you're pre-selecting me right now.

 

[Calibration]

Is this a real thing, or in your mind?

It's a real thing. I discussed this in my last LR:

LR - Oops..! I did it again! (Strong LMR)

Intro: After the last lay (LR: Thread 'Long bad streak finally ended!' https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/long-bad-streak-finally-ended.26538/) I was again struggling to get results. Guys here pointed out to me a lot of flaws in my game, like lack of structure, failing to build connection...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[HoofHearted]

I may not be understanding the problem, or maybe I can't relate.

But it seems that if you just stop making it so damn sexy, you can still enjoy the benefits of being liked by other people.

 

[Skills]

I'm starting to realize that I've lost a lot of girls coming across as a playboy when displaying preselection. Although I do it very subtly, girls are smart to pick up playerish vibes and it hurts my game causing attainability issues. Also, I meet them through cold approach. So, they'd think that I have a lot of girls and they're just one of the number and don't think they're any special. How can I balance being playful/flirtatious and talk about other girls and also sex talk and not come across as a player?

Dude look at this convo i had with teevester, make sure you read all responses, you have my vibe vs teevester:

Should You Communicate That You Are More Than "Just A Fuck and Dump" Type Of Guy

Moderator edit: Skills and I discussed in this thread whether or not (and eventually "when") one should communicate that you are more than just a guy who "fucks and dump" kind of guy in order to have sex with girls. 3.- you will not fuck and dump Not necessarily. Although you do not want to...

www.skilledseducer.com

And againg read this post, dude i recently explained this issue:

Date Plans - The lover provider balance keep it ambiguous - troubleshooting

So guys i get many pms, and i see posts about lover provider a lot, people misunderstand the whole thing, this is one of the topics people don't get due to nuances. Ok the lover provider stuff has been discussed to death, and yes it is important, super important..... But as always there are...

www.skilledseducer.com

 

[Calibration]

Dude look at this convo i had with teevester, make sure you read all responses, you have my vibe vs teevester:

Should You Communicate That You Are More Than "Just A Fuck and Dump" Type Of Guy

Moderator edit: Skills and I discussed in this thread whether or not (and eventually "when") one should communicate that you are more than just a guy who "fucks and dump" kind of guy in order to have sex with girls. 3.- you will not fuck and dump Not necessarily. Although you do not want to...

www.skilledseducer.com

And againg read this post, dude i recently explained this issue:

Date Plans - The lover provider balance keep it ambiguous - troubleshooting

So guys i get many pms, and i see posts about lover provider a lot, people misunderstand the whole thing, this is one of the topics people don't get due to nuances. Ok the lover provider stuff has been discussed to death, and yes it is important, super important..... But as always there are...

www.skilledseducer.com

It amazes me how this forum has an answer for everything.. thanks bro

 

[Calibration]

Dude look at this convo i had with teevester, make sure you read all responses, you have my vibe vs teevester:

Should You Communicate That You Are More Than "Just A Fuck and Dump" Type Of Guy

Moderator edit: Skills and I discussed in this thread whether or not (and eventually "when") one should communicate that you are more than just a guy who "fucks and dump" kind of guy in order to have sex with girls. 3.- you will not fuck and dump Not necessarily. Although you do not want to...

www.skilledseducer.com

And againg read this post, dude i recently explained this issue:

Date Plans - The lover provider balance keep it ambiguous - troubleshooting

So guys i get many pms, and i see posts about lover provider a lot, people misunderstand the whole thing, this is one of the topics people don't get due to nuances. Ok the lover provider stuff has been discussed to death, and yes it is important, super important..... But as always there are...

www.skilledseducer.com

Damn! I should've read this a couple of days ago. I don't like online dating for various reasons. However, I thought I can practice my texting and so created an account on hinge and matched with this cute chic.

We didn't meet as you can see below. Your posts has answers to this. Now I know why I'm unable to get the girls back after I fuck them once. It's cos I invite them directly to my "romantic balcony". I think if I want a girl long term, I should take her on at least one date. Otherwise, she thinks I'm a fuckboy and want only ONS. My vibe as it is screams of playboy and inviting over directly makes it hard for attainability. This chic was pretty into me but inviting her over directly caused failure. Now I'm a bit skeptical about the approach of inviting girls home directly. Could you review this and provide your feedback bro?

https://imgur.com/a/NIYGbe4

https://imgur.com/a/Zl2q1oB

https://imgur.com/a/cuu9ITr

https://imgur.com/a/ksbKTGw

I met another chic and took her on an instant date and we had planned to meet today but since she was traveling, she cancelled the plans over text. I left her on read and went radio silent. Chase mentioned in one of his comments from your post to be persistent and I think I could've been persistent. I think I'm stuck between being try hard and coming across as needy and not being persistent at all. Don't know how to balance this.

https://imgur.com/a/LvtlofP

 

[Skills]

Damn! I should've read this a couple of days ago. I don't like online dating for various reasons. However, I thought I can practice my texting and so created an account on hinge and matched with this cute chic.

We didn't meet as you can see below. Your posts has answers to this. Now I know why I'm unable to get the girls back after I fuck them once. It's cos I invite them directly to my "romantic balcony". I think if I want a girl long term, I should take her on at least one date. Otherwise, she thinks I'm a fuckboy and want only ONS. My vibe as it is screams of playboy and inviting over directly makes it hard for attainability. This chic was pretty into me but inviting her over directly caused failure. Now I'm a bit skeptical about the approach of inviting girls home directly. Could you review this and provide your feedback bro?

https://imgur.com/a/NIYGbe4

https://imgur.com/a/Zl2q1oB

https://imgur.com/a/cuu9ITr

https://imgur.com/a/ksbKTGw

I met another chic and took her on an instant date and we had planned to meet today but since she was traveling, she cancelled the plans over text. I left her on read and went radio silent. Chase mentioned in one of his comments from your post to be persistent and I think I could've been persistent. I think I'm stuck between being try hard and coming across as needy and not being persistent at all. Don't know how to balance this.

https://imgur.com/a/LvtlofP

You are derrailing your own post, weak texts normie convos ..look at my post on how to flrt..

 

[Calibration]

You are derrailing your own post, weak texts normie convos ..look at my post on how to flrt..

1. Ya, you're right. Perhaps I should've created another post about this conversation for review.
2. But I added it here cos I thought it has the elements of the OP about coming across as playboy by inviting a girl over which is why I believe I failed here.
3. Regarding flirting, if you noticed I tested waters by playfully teasing her a few times like dominatrix, stealing chocolates etc but she wasn't biting and moving the conversation in the logical direction. I believe she didn't know how to flirt back cos otherwise she was still complying to date close. So, if a girl is not complying to flirting, isn't it lame if I continue to do that and if she is already complying to date close, why should I still flirt?

BTW, if you think this discussion doesn't belong to this post, I'll move it to a different post.

 

[Skills]

1. Ya, you're right. Perhaps I should've created another post about this conversation for review.
2. But I added it here cos I thought it has the elements of the OP about coming across as playboy by inviting a girl over which is why I believe I failed here.
3. Regarding flirting, if you noticed I tested waters by playfully teasing her a few times like dominatrix, stealing chocolates etc but she wasn't biting and moving the conversation in the logical direction. I believe she didn't know how to flirt back cos otherwise she was still complying to date close. So, if a girl is not complying to flirting, isn't it lame if I continue to do that and if she is already complying to date close, why should I still flirt?

BTW, if you think this discussion doesn't belong to this post, I'll move it to a different post.

just pm me like you been doing... i will give you a structure i used for apps...