Date Plans How to escalate to kiss or sex when you bring a girl home?

[Calibration]

I met a girl yesterday from cold approach. I've been rusty for sometime now. Went on an instant date and bounced her home. I'm pretty sure I missed escalation windows many times. Anyway, when I went to kiss her, she retracted saying "she's not ready yet" and we went back to chilling for some more time. Soon after, I called her to where I was sitting telling her to come here and as she came to me, I pulled her into kissing again and failed again. This time, it was a bit clunky and it went all down south after this. We drank a lot but nothing happened and she left. I know I missed escalation windows but I don't know when and where did I miss them. What are the signs to look for etc.
If someone has a video/article/tips/gambits/process, could you please share? I've missed quite a few times in the past as well. I'd like to know what is the right process to escalate once I bring a girl home.

 

[Calibration]

Ok, found this article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/escalation-windows

Which precisely pointed my mistake.

Anyway, does anyone know what to do if the girl just starts drinking a lot and not cooperating with the seduction?

 

[TomInHo]

In my experience, getting a kiss rejection at home tends to happen when you did not sexualize the interaction before making the pull. The vibe may have been too friendly before your kiss attempt and she may have been drinking a lot because she was nervous.

So I don't think you missed any escalation windows and instead think you may have failed to make her feel aroused and comfortable enough to have sex

This can be corrected by setting more sexual frames in your interaction prior to the pull by

- Using and ramping up light touch
- Using Sex Talk, Innuendos & Stories
- Speaking with rich descriptive language on sensual topics to get her thinking about sex indirectly
- Ramping up tension

Also when escalating at home, think about building compliance. So if she rejected your kiss, then you should move down to a lower level and slowly ramp up, for example

- Kiss rejection
- Pull all the way back
- Slowly get more proximity
- Start touching her thigh
- Slow down speech and use more pregnant pauses
- Increase eye contact
- Go for the kiss again

You should be going through this process fairly quickly, and don't fall for the rookie mistake of talking forever until she is comfortable. Because she will only get sexually comfortable if you escalate, and this is even more true when the girl is nervous

And also if she still doesn't kiss you, all is not lost. Because you can actually have sex with a girl without kissing her. For example you can build compliance by using a massage

- Kiss rejection
- Pull all the way back
- Slowly get more proximity
- Start touching her thigh
- Ask her to give you a massage
- Take off your shirt
- Tell her to lie on her tummy
- Give her a back massage
- Tell her to take off her top
- Give her a booty massage
- Tell her to take off her pants
- Rub her pussy until she's about to explode
- Insert Dick in Pussy
- Celebrate and write a lay report on how you can get laid without kissing

The above is a best case scenario of course, but to sum it up think about building sexual tension as well as compliance to close more girls at your place. Get creative with it and don't give up until she's moaning in pleasure or you totally botch the escalation and she has to leave

 

[Fuck This]

Go for the kiss before you go home, in that first "finally alone" moment after eye contact and kino. Outside the restaurant, in a dark hallway, in the elevator leading to your room. That way if she rebuffs the kiss, you can do a take away...and she feels she might really lose you.

On the opposite extreme, when I've done a public kiss,(at the bar, on the dance floor) that has the lowest success rate. Friends cock block, she gets validation, she's leaving with others.

 

[DonGately]

After sexualizing the convo, you should have 100% kissed the girl before arriving at your pad. It doesn't have to be some long 5-minute thing in an alleyway but your intentions should be clear by that point if you've picked her up at a bar or whatnot.