How to Fall out of love

[Watsuabe]

Dear Girlchase Team,

Been talking to a girl on and off (curretly off) for a couple months, only problem is she is current;y single and meeting new guy's. I''m meeting new girls and (hooked up with a couple girls) but still her friends tell me she's still into me and I think I might be in l*** with her (been talking since last novermber 2012/ had sex like 9 or more times) the weird thing is even after I meet and hook up with other girls I still find myslef thinkint about this girl. I'm friends with her friends, and they all think I should sweep her off her feet, but she I'm tired of the games and trying to fall out of love with this chick.

I undersatnd replace dont chase I just find it hard when I work with the girl and see her every weekend, she on my fb too. Should I block her or what??

Any advice??

 

[trashKENNUT]

Watsuabe,

Been talking to a girl on and off (curretly off) for a couple months, only problem is she is current;y single and meeting new guy's. I''m meeting new girls and (hooked up with a couple girls) but still her friends tell me she's still into me and I think I might be in l*** with her (been talking since last novermber 2012/ had sex like 9 or more times) the weird thing is even after I meet and hook up with other girls I still find myslef thinkint about this girl. I'm friends with her friends, and they all think I should sweep her off her feet, but she I'm tired of the games and trying to fall out of love with this chick.

I undersatnd replace dont chase I just find it hard when I work with the girl and see her every weekend, she on my fb too. Should I block her or what??

Any advice??

It's okay she's dating other guys. I mean she doesn't want you to think you're the only guy in the world, although she's fond of you very much. It's not cool to delete her facebook out of the blue. It's not game she's playing. She just doing what you do, and you must respect that. If you want her, start spending more time with her, find out more about her. there's nothing wrong liking her, afterall she has invested in you.

Zac

 

[MonsieurLabrie]

Sleep with her and see if you actually like her later?

 

[Watsuabe]

Hey GirlChase Team,

>>>>MonsieurLabrie: Yea I haven't hooked up with her in a while but her friends keep trying to hook me up with her. And I see her all the time at the bar we work (she works their to), kinda have feelings for her still in the back of my head but, seeing her every weekend is messing up my abundance mentality. Even with me meeting other women.

GirlChase Team:
When a girl may be in resentment mode (I think its providing over value) what could you do to slowly warm her up.
Example: She's a girly girl who is a fashion designer and likes drama movies and reality shows.

 

[Watsuabe]

Continue from last post:

Now I'm in at a dilemma

The waitress i was talking to is now I believe is in full resentment mode. (She won't even talk me/ walks away when ever she see's me)

I'm moving on trying to talk to other girls but the waitress I was talking to is tarnishing my social status via "The bar/ club" I work at with rumors.
(Now I see why co-workers shouldn't hook up)

Other girls that use to be friendly are now giving me the cold shoulder.

I'm just curious as to how the GirlChase Team would handle this situation, because I just started a month ago and have some social circles with a couple people now.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Continue from last post:

Now I'm in at a dilemma

The waitress i was talking to is now I believe is in full resentment mode. (She won't even talk me/ walks away when ever she see's me)

I'm moving on trying to talk to other girls but the waitress I was talking to is tarnishing my social status via "The bar/ club" I work at with rumors.
(Now I see why co-workers shouldn't hook up)

Other girls that use to be friendly are now giving me the cold shoulder.

I'm just curious as to how the GirlChase Team would handle this situation, because I just started a month ago and have some social circles with a couple people now.

i assume it was the same girl the other time? if it is, read on.

I have been on the receiving end of this a lot. It is very hard to actually come out of all this crap, (not a best word to describe it) but this is what happens in social circles a lot, although this is partly your fault too from the very beginning. Let me list out those things

1) You're not the leader of the social circle or that bar, or at least someone who is highly regarded who provides value while he's around sometimes, not all too often.
2) The ratio of investment of you talking to this girls or friends at the bar is higher than theirs, thus makes you look weak or easy prey in the face of all this.
3) You should not have been too friendly or try to get to know her friends when the relationship(as in dating or sleeping with her) with the women is still afresh. This is what i assumed you did.
4) Talking to other girls infront of her might be cool before you sleep with her, but after you sleep with her, even her friends become threats, thus she getting her friends back is to protect her reputation, and thus you be the receiving end of all those negative experience.
5) Lastly you didn't handle her emotions properly after sex, Buyer's remorse plus friends following like sheeps isn't always a cool thing. Eeks...

There's two things you can do here,

First, Ricardus, Chase's partner and good friend, he mention in this article https://www.girlschase.com/content/get-o ... al-freedom. Take Point 13 for you here. I have actually press the red button more than once in my life. It's a lot easier and save your time when it is hard to recover.

Second, Pretend nothing happen and really do, make this as if it is no big deal. But there will be a lot of shit here and there, and you only respond to it out when it is openly verbalised and you being the scapegoat. Key here is pointing out what they doing, and do it in a calm manner and set things straight.

https://www.girlschase.com/content/women-and-drama. Use Point 1 to 5 downwards as guidelines.

1)Leading,
2)Seeking understanding and to "talk it out" with your girl,
3)Righteous anger and "setting the record straight,"
4)Kicking her out, or leaving yourself, and/or
5)Breaking up with her.

In your case, Breaking up with her means not having relations with her, and if possible, if you want it because it's bad already, breaking out of the social circle and her altogether.

Zac

 

[MonsieurLabrie]

Continue from last post:

Now I'm in at a dilemma

The waitress i was talking to is now I believe is in full resentment mode. (She won't even talk me/ walks away when ever she see's me)

I'm moving on trying to talk to other girls but the waitress I was talking to is tarnishing my social status via "The bar/ club" I work at with rumors.
(Now I see why co-workers shouldn't hook up)

Other girls that use to be friendly are now giving me the cold shoulder.

I'm just curious as to how the GirlChase Team would handle this situation, because I just started a month ago and have some social circles with a couple people now.

Classic auto-rejection.

She probably feels like she's been strung along for months now while you were undecided. Now she's figured out you were never serious about her and she feels stupid for having believed you liked her.

Its probably too late to turn things around now. You'll just have to suck it up and forget her or her friends. If you were relying only on that bar/club for your abundance, you'll have to expand your horizons. She'll get over it soon enough.

Oh! and don't chase her. It's too late for that. You would only walk into her trap.

 

[Chase]

Watsuabe-

I'm moving on trying to talk to other girls but the waitress I was talking to is tarnishing my social status via "The bar/ club" I work at with rumors.
(Now I see why co-workers shouldn't hook up)

Other girls that use to be friendly are now giving me the cold shoulder.

I'm just curious as to how the GirlChase Team would handle this situation, because I just started a month ago and have some social circles with a couple people now.

There's only one surefire cure for auto-rejection: preselection.

If you want to stop getting the cold shoulder, start bringing girls who are more beautiful than this girl and are clearly very into you into work. As soon as they see you show up with some girl that outclasses them in looks and who's all over you, the cold shoulders and rumors vanish instantly into thin air, and are gone forever.

Chase