How to Game an X if you randomly encounter her again in public?

[AdamC]

Hey There Fellas,

So I have a curious question on how you would Game an X-GF or X Girl you've dated if you randomly encounter her again in public?
Public as in the street, at a random grocery store... The Coffee shop... Maybe a local Bar. Basically wherever public.

NOW, I understand that the policy is to not talk about the Special Girl Thing, and to Find New Girls, but I am curious when you are already meeting new girls, if you do encounter an X, and maybe wanted more experiences with her, especially now if you know thing better, or Fucked Up previously - how would you interact with her? How would you game her?

Ideally, and hopefully you would just encounter her, or she with her girlfriends, but you might actually encounter her with New Dude, or guy she's dating, or Dude of the week, or night. How do you handle that?

Either way, if you do bump into this X, AND you DON'T want to Game her again - how do you play it so that she is like - "Oh, maybe I was wrong about Tom Smith." The idea being - flipping the power, that she lost you, rather than you lost her...

Just super curious, because I have been bumping into random people from my past, and am spooked about running into an X.

Ya know the classic saying is - "Luck is when opportunity meets preparedness..." And I'm just trying to learn the preparedness thing...

 

[WhiteCastle]

There's a reason you guys are Ex's, and it's not worth spending any effort trying to get back with someone you know doesn't work out for you.

I have gotten back with ex's before, and I do it by being friendly and asking them out. I already have their number, so I just text them something simple "Happy birthday" "happy <holiday>" or whatever because I was thinking of them and wanted to reach out as I would with most friends. Then, if she responds and we start chatting, I ask her if she wants to do <thing>. If yes, it's done. If no, no worries and I don't reach out again. Usually the relationship is different than it was before, because we broke up for a reason, and that reason doesn't magically go away. (LTR -> Fuck buddy, etc) I'm also not sending the text with the intent of hooking up with them again, or getting back together, or anything of the sort -- I'm actually just reaching out to say happy <whatever> and I'm genuinely fine with any response or even no response.

If you run into one randomly while out just be friendly, say 'hi', and move along to someone else if she's not interested in chatting. If you must you can follow up with a "hey, it was great running into you the other day" text a bit later I suppose, but I have not field tested that so it might backfire horribly.

 

[AdamC]

Interesting WhiteCastle.

I guess what I am asking, more specifically, is do you just open her as if she were a new girl - Open, Tease, Push-Pull, Qualify - Win and then go for a date close, WITHOUT mentioning anything about the past.

Or do you go in more "Freindzone," "How You been, blah...blah...blah..." And, nice casual ask - "What's your schedule like, we should hang out again soon?"

Of course I hate that line - "we should hang out again soon" - There's gotta be something better/sharper to say there (with any girl).

Now, even more complex, how might you open her if she's with another Dude?

 

[WhiteCastle]

Interesting WhiteCastle.

I guess what I am asking, more specifically, is do you just open her as if she were a new girl - Open, Tease, Push-Pull, Qualify - Win and then go for a date close, WITHOUT mentioning anything about the past.

Or do you go in more "Freindzone," "How You been, blah...blah...blah..." And, nice casual ask - "What's your schedule like, we should hang out again soon?"

I go friendzone because we're ex's. If something happens with her it's an added bonus, but ultimately I don't care, since we don't work out in a relationship sense. And no, I don't ask "we should hang out again soon" -- I say "I'm going to X, want to join?" or "I need to get going, let's grab a drink and chat more, are you free wednesday?".

Of course I hate that line - "we should hang out again soon" - There's gotta be something better/sharper to say there (with any girl).

Now, even more complex, how might you open her if she's with another Dude?

I think you're missing my point. While I'm answering your question, what I'm really saying is"stop worrying so much about reconnecting with an ex". They literally don't matter since you know that you two don't work out.

If they're with a dude? Whatever, go as friends. If they're solo? Whatever, go as friends. If they're actively fucking another dude when you start talking to them? Whatever, you have some odd friendships. If you don't want to be friends with them, and only want to fuck them? Don't bother talking to them, find someone else who you don't have a history with.