Recently I've decided to start deep diving pretty much everyone. I want to know their worldviews to have a better understanding of how people around me think. I've found that I'm really good at it and people frequently tell me some pretty wild stuff. Turns out their filters kinda turn off if you can make them feel like you've been on the same team before even having met eachother. Today I mentioned to a girl that I was talking to her because she made it easy for me to approach her, and then she spontaneously said something like "oh I'm happy to hear that, I learned how to do that from an anti-feminist on tiktok". Like, what? We only met 15 minutes ago and you actually just said that to me?
But I am having this issue: Sometimes a girl is preoccupied with something that's been persistently bugging her. Maybe she's having trouble finding a job and she's stressed out by this. She keeps going back to thinking about this dead-end topic, blocking the conversation from progressing and blocking herself from hooking.
Usually this takes the form of me trying to start a thread, she gets a bit involved, but then remembers the original stressor during a transition and goes back to thinking about it. Then the conversation stalls cuz she just ruined the transition with a topic that I can't do anything with. How do I get her to "break out" of a thought pattern like this? It seems like I need an extra powerful pattern interrupt? Or an extra powerful hook?
Also related to that problem, sometimes a group is stuck. Such as multiple people in the group are having trouble finding a job, so all they want to do is talk about that despite the topic having zero potential to go anywhere or be useful. Is there anything I can even do in that situation, or do I just have to accept that the group is out of my control and I need to isolate someone if I want to talk to them?
But I am having this issue: Sometimes a girl is preoccupied with something that's been persistently bugging her. Maybe she's having trouble finding a job and she's stressed out by this. She keeps going back to thinking about this dead-end topic, blocking the conversation from progressing and blocking herself from hooking.
Usually this takes the form of me trying to start a thread, she gets a bit involved, but then remembers the original stressor during a transition and goes back to thinking about it. Then the conversation stalls cuz she just ruined the transition with a topic that I can't do anything with. How do I get her to "break out" of a thought pattern like this? It seems like I need an extra powerful pattern interrupt? Or an extra powerful hook?
Also related to that problem, sometimes a group is stuck. Such as multiple people in the group are having trouble finding a job, so all they want to do is talk about that despite the topic having zero potential to go anywhere or be useful. Is there anything I can even do in that situation, or do I just have to accept that the group is out of my control and I need to isolate someone if I want to talk to them?
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