I've been puzzled over all the numbers I get that just become endless small talk or conversations that don't lead to dates. Even when someone agrees to go out there's only a 1 in 10 chance they will show. Maybe I need to stop texting and call instead. Ideas?
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Check Chase’s guides on how to text.
The main point is to seed the date in your initial interaction.
If you are getting phone numbers to “keep in touch” without getting the girls much excited about an upcoming date, they are not going to bite.
The main point is to seed the date in your initial interaction.
If you are getting phone numbers to “keep in touch” without getting the girls much excited about an upcoming date, they are not going to bite.
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This is what i was thinking. My texting isn't great,but even a woman interested in a date would try to work with me so i assume. Calling sounds like the way to build comfort and reestablish interest,but I dislike calling.
The trend in pickup these days is don't call because outdated,girls don't like it,intrusive etc. But Chase said from his OD that it works and he suggested it to guys from this forum and calling lead to better results for these guys. Makes sense in theory for a woman to hear you speak through your voice it's attractive and be more interested in meeting up. It's just really nervewracking especially if you don't feel confident in what you're doing.
Interesting enough a coach told me as a beginner 1 of 10 girls numbers u get will meet up with you on a date and the rest will flake.
Hey, sorry it took so long to reply, but I actually got two good dates. Here's a good example. A lot of my communication is on snapchat. So it took a minute to find pure text rather than hybrid.
Me: "Hey, this is JR. Please save my contact
Her: M. Your so polite I like it
Me:Thanks! That's me being me
Her:So tell me where are you from?
(She send pics)
Me:I'm from Louisiana
Her:So where are you at now?
Me:I moved here a year ago. Wbu?
Her:I'm from Minnesota moved here 2 years ago
Me:How do u like it here?
Her:Ummmmm
Me: Wow, Minnesota is better?
Her:Umm besides the snow yes. Idk I love the summer here. I want to explore more of TN so once it gets nice out I want to go to Nashville for a day. Idkk
Me:That's a great idea! Nashville is nice. It's a bigger city. There's lots to do and see.
Her: Maybe if I had someone to explore things with I would say something so actually idk if it's better in Mn so I take that back. Can't jump to assumptions
Me:Either way, I'm not offended. I only got here a year ago
Her:BUT I LOVEEEEEEEE LOUISIANA
Me:You've been to Louisiana?
Her:What made you move here? My dads from there
Me:I came here for work. Oh, u have a Louisiana connection. Cool
Her:My family is there still and yeahh I do. Do you have kidsv
Me:No, no kids, but I want to.
Her:Okay good good.How tall are you?
Me:5' 11", 6 ft with any type of shoes on
Her
o you like sports? (She's really into sports)Me:Yep, I'm not deep into it though. I just like cheering for the home team I used to like basketball more than football but I switched
Her:Okay as long as you can watch it we are good to go for that.Do you have some type of faith beliefs
Me:That's actually the 1st time someone has asked. It's a good question. I think there is something out there but I don't think taking the books literally is the path for me. I was blessed with a mind and it's on me to use it
Her:Okay no worries as long as you think There is something out there that is OK with me
Me:What time is work? I'm not holding u up am I?
Her:I work at 2. No you are fine sorry I was talking to my daughters other grandma to get some health information. I'm free now
Me:No worries, I'm actually about to jump in the shower. I just forgot to ask which days you're free to do stuff
Her:Opooo. You up and moving and I'm free Sunday's Monday's and And then I'm also free any time before 1pm Tuesday-Saturday. Did you get the picture I sent to you
Me:Ah cool, yep I got the pics, maybe we can do something Monday if that works
Her: I would have my daughter
Me:We don't have to rush. Is there a better day?"
Long convos go on for days, fall off abruptly, and we never meet.