How to handle girl inviting me on "blind meet up"...?

[RodeoRyan]

Okay, so yesterday, a girl slipped my friends a note while I was in the bathroom with her name and phone number on it saying she thought I was cute. To be honest, this has never happened to me before. In the past year I have gotten the routine of meeting a girl, setting up a meet through text, going out then bedding her down pretty well. In fact, in recent months, I've gotten to the point where most girls are chasing ME - which is a nice, liberating change for once.

Now I say all this because I'm now in a situation I've yet to experience. I'm not sure exactly the next move here so I'll tell you what I've done so far. Actually, I don't even really know which girl it was, as there were several girls at the table they were sitting and my friends think the girl sent a proxy to hand them the note...so there's no certainty here.

I followed basic protocol I guess, and shot her a text the next day (today). To get you up to speed, here's the text convo that has transpired thus far:

• ME: Sam, hi! My friends gave me your note. My name's Ryan. Hope your Tuesday's goin well.

• HER: Hey it's going pretty well so far. You looked really familiar last night... Do you go to [name of our university]?

• ME: Familiar? Hmm... I mean, yeah, you could say i go to [university]. I'm guessing you are one of the girls who was sitting at the now infamous "popcorn table" last night?

• HER: Yeah haha we still have so much of that popcorn left. But listen I'm usually at Kate's [name of popular bar, known for hot, sweaty, sexy dancing and a good, sexy crowd] on the weekends so if you're ever there, let me know

So, I've gotten used to kind of using my conversationalist skills to get girls interested in me, then get their number. Then maybe on the 1st date, I dive deep, finding out what she really wants, and mirror her. So on and so forth. But it sounds like this girl just wants me to come to Kate's one night and meet up with her, then go from there I guess. And remember, I've technically never met this girl, so it'd kinda be like a blind meet up...

I feel like if I just straight up go there, I'm making myself too attainable, and more importantly, chasing HER... But on the other hand, it really sounds like this girl wants me to meet up with her, and if I don't, she might go into auto-rejection. I guess my question is, "How do I get the control back in my hands, so I can steer this the way I want?" Furthermore, is that even what I should be doing? Or should I just reply back with something like, "Well, next time I'm at Kate's I'll be sure to find you "

I'm wondering if anybody has been in this same/similar situation and/or if anyone has any advice. Thoughts?

Thanks!

 

[PinotNoir]

So Kate's is a dance club? I'd blow it off, just come up with a fake excuse. Personally, I don't like them for dates. In this situation, she may even be going with her friends (have you asked if it will just be the 2 of you?), and you'll have competition there where it's actually socially acceptable for guys to cut in on your date. If you got your game down to a T or you just don't have anything better to do that day, then go. However, I'd just blow it off, ask for another day she is free, and come up with a place more private. Of course, you don't even know if you're attracted to her yet... so maybe Kate's is a good idea. But just in case she is super hot, dance club sounds like a bad idea.

 

[Light]

Hi RodeoRyan,

You don't know if she is your type or not until you've met her, so meeting her there would be a good idea.
If you don't like her, you can always just play the disappearing act amongst the crowd.

Arrange a night out with your boys to go there, and fire her a text the day before to let her know that you will be going there, and if she wants, she can go hunt for you at the bar. This will put her in the chasing position, where she will have to go and find you if she wants to meet you.

 

[RodeoRyan]

PinotNoir and Light,

I mean Kate's has 2 levels, the upstairs half being for dancing. Also, I wouldn't call it a "club" per say. Based on the way Chase classifies bars/clubs in How to Pick Up Girls in Bars, I'd call Kate's a 'Popular Bar'. Since I've been in college and grad school for almost 6 years now, I do very well in these venues. PinotNoir is probably right about her likely being with friends, so I kinda like Light's suggestion to bring a group of my friends.

I'm thinking I could show up, let her know I'm downstairs (less dancing, more possibility of getting to talk to her) and have her come searching for me. I don't plan to dance with her as I agree with Chase that dancefloor pickup is tough b/c the 'spell is broken' once you leave the floor, and her logical mind kicks in. So I plan to just get her face-to-face, deep dive if possible, set up a one-on-one meet for later next week and then I'll have her in my regular routine.

If we end up leaving the bar together that night, even better. If not, my friends and I head to another bar and I move girls there, knowing I have a meet-up with her later...

Thanks for the advice