how to increase confidence to get laid

[Lovelifelivefree]

Hi,

I want a few tips that can help my situation. But I'll tell a bit more about my situation since i'm sure there are people before and ahead of me in dating. I'm 32 years old

I've been dating this girl for a while but the relationship has become long distance (yes we fuck every day when we are together). I've been thinking of parting ways, however in between i've not been able to pick up any girls. I've had work and other problems to deal with which took a lot of my time and added unnecessary stress. I can blame myself for being not very active in dating. In the last 2-3 months i've been going out mostly weekends with a friend or two to try to get laid. All i've got is a couple of dates, bunch of nos, lot of not interested in over a lot of approaches (I really didn't count how many but seriously its a lot).

List of my problems
1. I've reached a point in my head where I can't even visualize getting laid when I go and chat up a girl.
2. I've been working out irregularly but consistent over the long run and genuinely don't feel like drinking alcohol just for going out.
3. If the girl doesn't show much interest in like the first minute I really dont feel like sticking around and just bail.
4. When things move forward from that, if the girl is giving me resistance and nothing seems to be moving in the direction of getting any pussy, i feel bad from it and bail again. I included the feel bad part since i'm pretty sure its obvious on my facial expression. I don't think this is cool if she realizes it.
5. I cant get my head around the numbers game bit since i've realised it.

Things I do well or are positive
1. I take care of myself and try improving my life in general incl food, working out.
2. I do approach girls I like and/or want.
3. I know what I want from women: ONS or FWB and nothing else.
4. This is good and bad: I think i've figured out how to know if a girl is available but dont feel confident that i'm right as I can always be wrong.

any suggestions or likes would be great.

 

[Fuck This]

Hi,

I want a few tips that can help my situation. But I'll tell a bit more about my situation since i'm sure there are people before and ahead of me in dating. I'm 32 years old

I've been dating this girl for a while but the relationship has become long distance (yes we fuck every day when we are together). I've been thinking of parting ways, however in between i've not been able to pick up any girls. I've had work and other problems to deal with which took a lot of my time and added unnecessary stress. I can blame myself for being not very active in dating. In the last 2-3 months i've been going out mostly weekends with a friend or two to try to get laid. All i've got is a couple of dates, bunch of nos, lot of not interested in over a lot of approaches (I really didn't count how many but seriously its a lot).

List of my problems
1. I've reached a point in my head where I can't even visualize getting laid when I go and chat up a girl.
2. I've been working out irregularly but consistent over the long run and genuinely don't feel like drinking alcohol just for going out.
3. If the girl doesn't show much interest in like the first minute I really dont feel like sticking around and just bail.
4. When things move forward from that, if the girl is giving me resistance and nothing seems to be moving in the direction of getting any pussy, i feel bad from it and bail again. I included the feel bad part since i'm pretty sure its obvious on my facial expression. I don't think this is cool if she realizes it.
5. I cant get my head around the numbers game bit since i've realised it.

Things I do well or are positive
1. I take care of myself and try improving my life in general incl food, working out.
2. I do approach girls I like and/or want.
3. I know what I want from women: ONS or FWB and nothing else.
4. This is good and bad: I think i've figured out how to know if a girl is available but dont feel confident that i'm right as I can always be wrong.

any suggestions or likes would be great.

Quit trying to get laid....and go out by yourself to smaller quieter venues earlier in the night. Happy hours during the week. Go to watch the ball game on TV.

For some strange reason , lately when I just go to enjoy a nice relaxed time, the women hook hard. It is like they can sense the outcome independence.....

I think Weekend approaches in clubs, their guard is up.

 

[MickDavies]

+1 to Fuck This' reply. There is a concept in hypnosis called the law of reversed effort which basically says that the more pressure you put on yourself to produce a particular unconcious result (like attracting that girl) the more you fuck yourself over. With that in mind I would also say try to maximise the ways you have of getting pussy. Even low quality return options (such as online dating if that works for you) are good for raising your baseline i.e. 'I'm probably going to get pussy at some point anyway even if it's not my first choice' vs 'this girl's skirt is hiding my last best chance of getting laid'. Then take anything positive a girl gives you as gravy, any shit she gives you, if it's not something you literally can't deal with right now, you can ignore for the moment & if it is move on. You're not relying on her interest in you anyway.