I know that we should get a phone number in the high point of an interaction. I was wondering what type of signs could I get that would most definitely call for ending the interaction (and arrange a date for other day) instead of just keep going (to try to get her to go home with me).
How to know when to end interaction (or keep going)
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Day game approaches:
Ending the interaction:
- Either of you have something to do and cannot go on an instant date.
Keep going on:
- She has time, you have time, go on an instant-date and then go for the pull. All or nothing, essentially.
Typically I go with ending the interaction in day game, because I am usually doing something and don't have the right logistics for going on an instant date.
Night-life Approaches
Ending the interaction:
- You are usually not going to want to do this unless she refuses to go home with you, in which case the prospect was lost anyways. If your logistics suck and you have no place to take her and she has no place to take you, end it and move onto another girl, while keeping that phone number for another time.
Keep going:
- Always keep going. Make sure your logistics are right if you can help it. Usually if she's not willing to go on when she is practically primed for sex, she isn't going to be ready at any other time.
Ending the interaction:
- Either of you have something to do and cannot go on an instant date.
Keep going on:
- She has time, you have time, go on an instant-date and then go for the pull. All or nothing, essentially.
Typically I go with ending the interaction in day game, because I am usually doing something and don't have the right logistics for going on an instant date.
Night-life Approaches
Ending the interaction:
- You are usually not going to want to do this unless she refuses to go home with you, in which case the prospect was lost anyways. If your logistics suck and you have no place to take her and she has no place to take you, end it and move onto another girl, while keeping that phone number for another time.
Keep going:
- Always keep going. Make sure your logistics are right if you can help it. Usually if she's not willing to go on when she is practically primed for sex, she isn't going to be ready at any other time.
Thx Ross!
One more thing. I've read about persistance and that we shouldn't settle for a no the first time we ask a girl to come home with us (and other situations when she doesn't comply: like moving to other place). We should ask many others. If I do and is still "no no no" I guess I shouldn't take this as it won't happen other time so I should try to have a first date with this girl (since I already should have his phone number) and push on that day, right?
One more thing. I've read about persistance and that we shouldn't settle for a no the first time we ask a girl to come home with us (and other situations when she doesn't comply: like moving to other place). We should ask many others. If I do and is still "no no no" I guess I shouldn't take this as it won't happen other time so I should try to have a first date with this girl (since I already should have his phone number) and push on that day, right?
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Diego-
Here's a great rule to live by: if you're talking to her, and you're having fun, and she's having fun, why wouldn't you look for ways for the two of you to keep spending time together right now and have even more fun?
That's the hard push / hard sell. Think of that as "burning it to the ground." When you go for that one, you're gambling - gambling that with enough calm, measured persistence, you can get her to change her mind and say, "Well, okay." However, if she says no, and it ends on that "no," your goose is more or less cooked for the future.
So before you do that one, give it a think, and decide if you're more interested in trying to see this girl later (propose a date, grab a number, and set up the date for the future) OR if you'd rather see if you can make something happen right now, the future be damned.
Generally though, you only get to do one - do the one you think gives you the best shot at making some magic happen.
It's worth trying out the hard push to get a feel for when it's worth using and when it isn't. If you're not sure exactly how to do it or you're not doing it calmly, smoothly, and addressing logical objectives while being gently inviting though, it normally won't work, so keep that in mind - it'll fall flat without the right tones / angle, so don't use it with girls you really like until you've figured out how to do it properly - it's advanced technique that can work wonders when you're good and you've got your vibe down right, but can come across clumsy and even creepy in the hands of many a beginner!
Chase
Here's a great rule to live by: if you're talking to her, and you're having fun, and she's having fun, why wouldn't you look for ways for the two of you to keep spending time together right now and have even more fun?
diegocandamo said:
That's the hard push / hard sell. Think of that as "burning it to the ground." When you go for that one, you're gambling - gambling that with enough calm, measured persistence, you can get her to change her mind and say, "Well, okay." However, if she says no, and it ends on that "no," your goose is more or less cooked for the future.
So before you do that one, give it a think, and decide if you're more interested in trying to see this girl later (propose a date, grab a number, and set up the date for the future) OR if you'd rather see if you can make something happen right now, the future be damned.
Generally though, you only get to do one - do the one you think gives you the best shot at making some magic happen.
It's worth trying out the hard push to get a feel for when it's worth using and when it isn't. If you're not sure exactly how to do it or you're not doing it calmly, smoothly, and addressing logical objectives while being gently inviting though, it normally won't work, so keep that in mind - it'll fall flat without the right tones / angle, so don't use it with girls you really like until you've figured out how to do it properly - it's advanced technique that can work wonders when you're good and you've got your vibe down right, but can come across clumsy and even creepy in the hands of many a beginner!
Chase
It makes sense cause I'm hard pushing and if she ends up not complying it kinda sucks. Maybe I could try to set a quickly easy date but, as you said, I could have cooked my goose for the future. I definitely keep your advice in mind.
Thanks!
