Hello hunters,
I'll be as short as possible,
There's this girl, who perceives me as high value (feels intense attraction toward me) BUT with whom I screwed for not 'qualifying' properly.
Last time we met she told me she wanted to stay as friends because she felt I just like her as a girl, and I show no interest in her as a person. She also said she was looking for a relationship and I didn't seem to want the same.
She literally and explicitly told me that she likes me, but that she wants to just be friends for the aforementioned reason.
(By the way, my reaction was: I kinda ignored it, and tried to reseduce her on the spot, after she said that, we started to have some sex talk and I started to 'maximize' her state and she ended up being really horny and physically affectionate with me. I jumped for the kiss but she moved her face away. However, I am sure if I could've stayed longer, we would've ended up having sex all night)
A similar situation happened with this girl some time ago. She used to reach out to me almost every day, she felt like being 24/7 texting me. I acted very distant and cold, I basically never replied and barely reciprocated any contact with her. (I had other things in my mind at the time).
She found someone else. She told it to me when we saw each other again, said she liked me, but wanted to stay as friends.
My reaction was the same: reseduce and go for the kiss. This time it worked. And later I followed corey wayne's advice on this issue 'Don't accept the friends deal, tell her to write you when she changes her mind and go no contact'. Well, it worked like magic, I had her back in less than 2 weeks.
The thing is, this time I couldn't escalate in that way to (at least) the kiss, and now I guess I have her retroactive thinking going against me.
On whatsapp, when I brought up the issue, by saying that I was willing to go all in with her and willing to commit, she reinforced her point of view again, "I know I like you, and you re amazing blablabla but... ". She was also disappointed at me for having broken up with the other guy for me, and still not having had my interest.
We are going to meet soon to finish this pending talk.
And I don't really know what I should do.
I am afraid the "I can't be friends, text me if you change your mind" and going no contact, won't work. Since this time.... It looks like it won't. Still, I think it's the best possible reaction anyway.
What should I do? How could make her feel differently? Should I try to reseduce her again and go for the kiss next time we meet? Be upfront with what I want and how I feel about her and then go no contact?
I do really like this girl, but the external circumstances haven't been easy at all (until now though, but now that they are, she wants to stay as friends, xd)
Thank you all for your answers hunters !
I'll be as short as possible,
There's this girl, who perceives me as high value (feels intense attraction toward me) BUT with whom I screwed for not 'qualifying' properly.
Last time we met she told me she wanted to stay as friends because she felt I just like her as a girl, and I show no interest in her as a person. She also said she was looking for a relationship and I didn't seem to want the same.
She literally and explicitly told me that she likes me, but that she wants to just be friends for the aforementioned reason.
(By the way, my reaction was: I kinda ignored it, and tried to reseduce her on the spot, after she said that, we started to have some sex talk and I started to 'maximize' her state and she ended up being really horny and physically affectionate with me. I jumped for the kiss but she moved her face away. However, I am sure if I could've stayed longer, we would've ended up having sex all night)
A similar situation happened with this girl some time ago. She used to reach out to me almost every day, she felt like being 24/7 texting me. I acted very distant and cold, I basically never replied and barely reciprocated any contact with her. (I had other things in my mind at the time).
She found someone else. She told it to me when we saw each other again, said she liked me, but wanted to stay as friends.
My reaction was the same: reseduce and go for the kiss. This time it worked. And later I followed corey wayne's advice on this issue 'Don't accept the friends deal, tell her to write you when she changes her mind and go no contact'. Well, it worked like magic, I had her back in less than 2 weeks.
The thing is, this time I couldn't escalate in that way to (at least) the kiss, and now I guess I have her retroactive thinking going against me.
On whatsapp, when I brought up the issue, by saying that I was willing to go all in with her and willing to commit, she reinforced her point of view again, "I know I like you, and you re amazing blablabla but... ". She was also disappointed at me for having broken up with the other guy for me, and still not having had my interest.
We are going to meet soon to finish this pending talk.
And I don't really know what I should do.
I am afraid the "I can't be friends, text me if you change your mind" and going no contact, won't work. Since this time.... It looks like it won't. Still, I think it's the best possible reaction anyway.
What should I do? How could make her feel differently? Should I try to reseduce her again and go for the kiss next time we meet? Be upfront with what I want and how I feel about her and then go no contact?
I do really like this girl, but the external circumstances haven't been easy at all (until now though, but now that they are, she wants to stay as friends, xd)
Thank you all for your answers hunters !
