How to make her sit next to you in chill environment

[Spyce D]

In lounges , clubs it's loud so easier to make her sit by your side increasing proximity .

But what happens when it's not loud or its chill , if there are no couches / side to side Seats , girls sit across the table and I don't know how to make her sit next to me .

Anyone who knows how to handle it , please help .

Asking this cuz meeting a girl this weekend .

 

[topcat]

In lounges , clubs it's loud so easier to make her sit by your side increasing proximity .

But what happens when it's not loud or its chill , if there are no couches / side to side Seats , girls sit across the table and I don't know how to make her sit next to me .

Anyone who knows how to handle it , please help .

Asking this cuz meeting a girl this weekend .

it’s simple really. if she’s invested, tap the seat beside you and tell her “come sit beside me, i don’t like how this is giving me interview vibes” sometimes i even roleplay being an interviewer with a clipboard for emphasis.

If you don’t think she’s invested enough build some rapport for up to ten minutes and then run the above scenario..

You can even get up and sit down beside her..

 

[Spyce D]

it’s simple really. if she’s invested, tap the seat beside you and tell her “come sit beside me, i don’t like how this is giving me interview vibes” sometimes i even roleplay being an interviewer with a clipboard for emphasis

Never tried this . Let's see if I can next time.

you don’t think she’s invested enough build some rapport for up to ten minutes and then run the above scenario..

Ya , nice .

You can even get up and sit down beside her..

I tried this once , she declined lol . There wasn't enough repo or maybe it's the girl who was the problem.

 

[topcat]

I tried this once , she declined lol . There wasn't enough repo or maybe it's the girl who was the problem.

not enough rapport/investment. you need to get her to a point in conversation where you sitting next to her, would be the next logical step. less “stranger trying to pick me up” more “cute guy who i strangely feel like ive known forever..why am i sat so far away from him?”

make getting to that point in her mind quickly, a goal in your dates and things like “when to kiss?” or “lmr” or “how do i get her to sit next to me?” will vanish