How to proceed with a girl from speed dating

[chasemember1969]

I matched up with a girl during speed dating and gotten her number. I've been texting back and forth with her.

I texted her after the speed dating thing and it seems the conversation went pretty well. I decided to setup a date yesterday and she read my messages but she hasn't follow back on it. I plan on messaging her tomorrow to follow the 3 times persistence thing.

While following up with her, I want my reply to her to be something that can help build rapport and comfort in her (I think me making that offer put some pressure on her since we've only met for a couple of days). Here's the text convo I have with her.

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How would you guys approach this situation?

 

[trashKENNUT]

I matched up with a girl during speed dating and gotten her number. I've been texting back and forth with her.

I texted her after the speed dating thing and it seems the conversation went pretty well.

Hello CM,

I hope the initial reaction when she saw you is good. What was her facial expression when she sees you for the first time? Is it excited in a sense where she feels like she is doing something in the speed dating event

or is her eyes lock into yours more longer than usual when you guys first meet?

I read up your text. I am really pissed. LOLX.

why did you fucking send this text. "What is a quality you find desirable in a guy?" I don't care what any Girlschase members said. I feel that the momentum just completely nosedived after that. From where i see, she looks she is content with your approach and text. Your text was fine. But text really implies that you are 'qualifying for her standards'. and that was where things fall apart.

Also, this is pseudoscience nuance. When she responded "Gotta have a compatible sense of humor!", that was a warning shot, implying that you fuck up bad.

Anyway, recommend that you don't contact her for 3 weeks, at least, in my opinion if you really want to salvage this.

z@c+

 

[trashKENNUT]

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[chasemember1969]

I hope the initial reaction when she saw you is good. What was her facial expression when she sees you for the first time? Is it excited in a sense where she feels like she is doing something in the speed dating event

or is her eyes lock into yours more longer than usual when you guys first meet?

I think I was the one mostly asking her questions and we were just going with whatever the conversation flows. She also started that vodka water joke thing which I used to follow up with her so I guess it was a little bit of both.

why did you fucking send this text. "What is a quality you find desirable in a guy?" I don't care what any Girlschase members said. I feel that the momentum just completely nosedived after that. From where i see, she looks she is content with your approach and text. Your text was fine. But text really implies that you are 'qualifying for her standards'. and that was where things fall apart.

My thought process at the time was to have a conversation that's not the kind of conversation everyone else has i.e what do you like to do? Hows ur day? etc. I read something on GC about having a conversation that can delve into her subconscious so I was attempting to do that by asking that question. Another goal I wanted to make with this was I can open up more room so I could naturally tease, build rapport, or see an opening where I could ask her out and make it seem natural. Or just get enough receptiveness so I could just go ahead and make the move. I also wanted to get a bit of investment, see how compliant she was so I don't waste time on uninterested girls like i did in the past due to a lack of seeing the signals and at specific timings. If I'm still getting something wrong with this though, that means I have more work to do when it comes to 'reading the room' or 'reading her interests'.

Also, this is pseudoscience nuance. When she responded "Gotta have a compatible sense of humor!", that was a warning shot, implying that you fuck up bad.

I actually didn't see it that way at the time, I thought she was being serious with that one. Can you explain how you were able to read that was a warning shot?

Anyway, recommend that you don't contact her for 3 weeks, at least, in my opinion if you really want to salvage this.

Got it. I will try this out.

 

[PalmaSailor]

I matched up with a girl during speed dating and gotten her number. I've been texting back and forth with her.

I texted her after the speed dating thing and it seems the conversation went pretty well. I decided to setup a date yesterday and she read my messages but she hasn't follow back on it. I plan on messaging her tomorrow to follow the 3 times persistence thing.

While following up with her, I want my reply to her to be something that can help build rapport and comfort in her (I think me making that offer put some pressure on her since we've only met for a couple of days). Here's the text convo I have with her.

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How would you guys approach this situation?

I just get the feeling that you’d already met and spoken to her and you should simply have hit her up for a drinks date and not got involved in chat chat of any type.
If the attraction was there she would have gone and you’d have had time in the chair 1:1 so to speak