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How to Respond to "I'll let you know when I'm free later"?

Metamorphosis

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Hi, Beginner here

Yesterday, I met a girl who seemed into me (can be seen in the first reply of this thread: viewtopic.php?f=15&t=19201). She seemed very intrigued by me; she was asking a lot of questions about me and touching me on her part. However, the text exchange did not seem to go as well:

5PM:
Hey L, happy to have made your acquantaince ;) - Metamorphosis

6PM:
Hey Metamorphosis it was great meeting you! thanks for noticing my hair haha

8:33PM:
No problem. How'd the rest of your day turn out? I've been catching up on recruiting prep. On snagging some dinner- how does Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday sound? Let me know which day is best, and let's schedule up

11PM:
It was good thanks for asking. i met my parents for dinner. and can I let you know tomorrow? I may be heading home one night this week and it might be one of those days, just need to find out first.
(new text) hope you had a good rest of your day

1:25PM (today):
Sure, sounds good. Something popped up for Thursday, so I don't think I can do dinner then. However, now I'm free on Saturday instead.


Now it is almost 10PM, and I have not received a time for which she is good. As such, I have two questions to you, readers of this post:

1) What were things I could have done differently in this text exchange?
2) What is the best way to go forward (assuming she doesn't text back)?
 

Hue

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Sure, sounds good. Something popped up for Thursday, so I don't think I can do dinner then. However, now I'm free on Saturday instead.
This is fine. Not chasey at all, which is good.

It's important to approach it from this frame: "She said she'll let me know, she will let me know".

Chances are, she'll text you later this week for a good day (or a spontaneous, are you free tonight?) OR she will forget and not respond. If it's the former, then you have your date. If it's the latter then you can either next her, or persist.

Persisting with low effort texts is crucial, because a lot of times persistence done incorrectly quickly turns into chasing. My favorite reminder text is, "hey hows that schedule looking?" because it's low effort and it still pings her to get back to you. A lot of times girls just forget, so don't take it personally if she doesn't get back to you immediately off of your first conversation.

What were things I could have done differently in this text exchange?
If you already built good rapport with her and had a solid connection, then your texts get two thumbs up. If she's not quite comfortable, sometimes drawing the conversation out for longer is helpful.
What is the best way to go forward (assuming she doesn't text back)?
Persist properly.


Hue
 

Metamorphosis

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This sounds great! I will send her the "Hey, how's that schedule looking text" tomorrow morning (I'll wait one more day in case she decides to reply first).
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

Tony D

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On almost every pickup blog, the #1 search result is "Why won't she text me back?"

In these situations, the girl has almost all the power of choice. You are some guy she met at the mall, the bar, etc. Meanwhile she has 97 requests on Tinder, 46 on Facebook, 34 on Instagram, and then all of her friends from work, and school, etc. So the odds of meeting up with one girl are 1 in 100. So that means you should be out meeting 99 other women. And just wait for her to reply. If she doesn't get back to you in three days, ask again.
 
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