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Hi guys. I recently rented a room in Air BnB and had a really WEIRD situation. I booked a private room and this guy had positive reviews, seemed nice, but I noticed he was trying to one up me and condescend me when I arrived.
I went to a East European country and noticed that the toilet was a bit different. Instead of the regular toilet, it had like a chain on the ceiling that I thought was something else. Anyway, I take a piss and come outside
Me: Hey dude, is there a flush for the toilet?
Host: No shit, there's a flush thing on the ceiling (condescending)
Me: Oh shit, I never saw that before. (flushes toilet)
This was literally our first convi and we start just getting to know each other.
We talk about our travels and I tell him I went to Dubai recently and apparently he goes to Dubai all the time.
I tell him about my experience as a first time.
Me: Yeah, I went to Dubai it was great. Camel riding, sick food, sand-surfing, indoor ski, good stuff
Host: You went indoor ski-ing at Dubai? Why the hell would you do that? I would never go to Dubai to Ski. (Me thinking wtF? Why is he nitpicking shit?)
Me: That's your perspective.
Host: I know that's my perspective.
Me: That's great dude, I liked the indoor ski-ing experience. I'd do it again.
Anyway, I kind of get weirded out by this dude for trying to one-up me as soon as we meet. He tells me how he had therapy and a lot of counseling, crying, all that stuff. Too much.
I go to sleep and the next day, he's back home.
We start talking about the inflation situation going on and what the world's been like traveling.
Host: Inflation is getting crazy all over the world..
Me: like 08 and 09 (referring to America)
Host: He starts YELLING: I FUCKING KNOW. I KNOW. STOP INTERRUPTING ME.
At this point I was really just taken back. I got shocked psychologically and froze for a bit.
Anyway, afterwards I just started ignoring him.
When I would see him, he would mean mug me and I really wanted to just ask him if he had a problem.
But I had all my stuff in his Air BnB and didn't have a place to go so I just ignored it until I finally got out.
How do you handle this? People are usually very decent to me but I noticed sometimes other guys would start YELLING or RAISING THEIR VOICE when I'm talking to finish their sentence as if they need to assert their dominance.
I had this happen a few times where I got psychologically shocked cause they raise their voice out of nowhere
And then after a few times, I just say
"Ey hold up, dont ever fucking raise your voice at me again, you understand?" And they do a 180 in their behavior.
But I noticed that I get condescended, commanded (told what to do), or berated a bit when I first initially meet some guys that are insecure and I kind of freeze.
Sometimes I used to let it slide, but I noticed that I lose major status with people that are watching if I let people condescend me.
Any advice?
I went to a East European country and noticed that the toilet was a bit different. Instead of the regular toilet, it had like a chain on the ceiling that I thought was something else. Anyway, I take a piss and come outside
Me: Hey dude, is there a flush for the toilet?
Host: No shit, there's a flush thing on the ceiling (condescending)
Me: Oh shit, I never saw that before. (flushes toilet)
This was literally our first convi and we start just getting to know each other.
We talk about our travels and I tell him I went to Dubai recently and apparently he goes to Dubai all the time.
I tell him about my experience as a first time.
Me: Yeah, I went to Dubai it was great. Camel riding, sick food, sand-surfing, indoor ski, good stuff
Host: You went indoor ski-ing at Dubai? Why the hell would you do that? I would never go to Dubai to Ski. (Me thinking wtF? Why is he nitpicking shit?)
Me: That's your perspective.
Host: I know that's my perspective.
Me: That's great dude, I liked the indoor ski-ing experience. I'd do it again.
Anyway, I kind of get weirded out by this dude for trying to one-up me as soon as we meet. He tells me how he had therapy and a lot of counseling, crying, all that stuff. Too much.
I go to sleep and the next day, he's back home.
We start talking about the inflation situation going on and what the world's been like traveling.
Host: Inflation is getting crazy all over the world..
Me: like 08 and 09 (referring to America)
Host: He starts YELLING: I FUCKING KNOW. I KNOW. STOP INTERRUPTING ME.
At this point I was really just taken back. I got shocked psychologically and froze for a bit.
Anyway, afterwards I just started ignoring him.
When I would see him, he would mean mug me and I really wanted to just ask him if he had a problem.
But I had all my stuff in his Air BnB and didn't have a place to go so I just ignored it until I finally got out.
How do you handle this? People are usually very decent to me but I noticed sometimes other guys would start YELLING or RAISING THEIR VOICE when I'm talking to finish their sentence as if they need to assert their dominance.
I had this happen a few times where I got psychologically shocked cause they raise their voice out of nowhere
And then after a few times, I just say
"Ey hold up, dont ever fucking raise your voice at me again, you understand?" And they do a 180 in their behavior.
But I noticed that I get condescended, commanded (told what to do), or berated a bit when I first initially meet some guys that are insecure and I kind of freeze.
Sometimes I used to let it slide, but I noticed that I lose major status with people that are watching if I let people condescend me.
Any advice?