How to respond to the "I don't know you" question?

[Eiswein]

Good afternoon friends,

I have faced certain conversations that took me off guard and i would like to know what pros would have done
1. How to respond to the "I don't know you" question? simply tell her all about me and ruin the mystery? what to say? (I found this one as the form of last minute resistance but i want to know how to face this question in other moments as well)
2. Facing a playette, i found a curious phenomenon, i tried to lead the conversation into her but instead she lead it into me, Have you experienced this?my question is how to lead the conversation to the other person when she is trying the same thing
3. Sometimes i run into shy girls who are not much into the conversation thing, generally i classify this as not interested but some of these girls show body language that shows interest, flirty looks etc so i dont know what to do? basically lead the conversation into myself? funny remarks + try deep diving?

Hope you have a great day, Eiswein

 

[BigPapa]

Hehe , I encounter the same problem from time to time and still could not figure out a framework to deal with it , especially when I am not face to face with them

What I do currently is only to talk face2face with them and when we meet to talk about things that I like , or what I do so thus she can have a taste of whom I am and wait for her walls to go down . Sometimes I have the patience for this back and forth ( if I like her enough ) , while sometimes I just go ping other prospects
where are you from @Eiswein ?

 

[Eiswein]

First of all, thank you for your kind response BigPapa, hope you are having a good time bro. Im from Colombia and yes, shy girls are a bit troublesome, specially if they are inexperienced because you can come too strong easily and they just autoreject also i agree with "only talk face2face" because the only thing that more or less have worked for me was flirt/tease physically

 

[BigPapa]

I remember an incident with the type of girl you mentioned , I was talking about stuff asking her questions , Tease her a little bit because I could not read her at all as she was poker face and she would get really annoyed because of my light teasing and at some point she just told me something like “ I do not like when you come with your boots in my life “ and I was like wtf And after whatever I was saying she would pick up the slightest thing to argue with me and brake report Haha

 

[Eiswein]

"I could not read her at all" yeah exactly! thats what im talking about, incongruent verbal and physical lenguage and at the top of that physycal is sometimes ambigous too, without knowing her atraction level is imposible to calibrate and is easy to come too strong and mess thing up

 

[BigPapa]

The only thing that you can do is only push things forward and see if she bites or not . If she does not bite go back and push later .

but I totally feel what you are going through amigo And how difficult is to push when things are super ambiguous

 

[Henrik]

To answer the question, I do not know you as last-minute resistance. You can handle it in a few ways. This is the way I normally handle it:

You can joke and say: "Sure you do! You know my name is XXX and XXX we have known each other for a whole 2 hours [or however long].
You can also add 1 or 2 facts about her. She will likely laugh and say something like that was not what she meant. Then you roll to your back and get a little more serious and say: "Okay, what do you want to know?" And then just answer whatever question she has, then deep dive a bit with her for maybe 5 min then go back to having sex. When you deep dive, it is best you keep cuddling while you do it.


If she leads the conversation into you, then just talk about you. It is a sign that she is quite interested and that you should probably escalate soon.

Let me know if you have any questions

 

[BlandMan0]

To answer the question, I do not know you as last-minute resistance. You can handle it in a few ways. This is the way I normally handle it:

You can joke and say: "Sure you do! You know my name is XXX and XXX we have known each other for a whole 2 hours [or however long].
You can also add 1 or 2 facts about her. She will likely laugh and say something like that was not what she meant. Then you roll to your back and get a little more serious and say: "Okay, what do you want to know?" And then just answer whatever question she has, then deep dive a bit with her for maybe 5 min then go back to having sex. When you deep dive, it is best you keep cuddling while you do it.


If she leads the conversation into you, then just talk about you. It is a sign that she is quite interested and that you should probably escalate soon.

Let me know if you have any questions

Wouldn't too much talking kill the attraction? Or are you taking her mind off of things?

 

[Eiswein]

Hahah You are very funny Henrik friend, i will keep your advice as my way to go since now

 

[BlandMan0]

What's a playette?