How to think of myself when I'm disqualifying as a boyfriend?

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

So I'm struggling to understand how exactly will the boyfriend disqualification look like in my case.

So here's what I came up with: I'm going to be cosplaying one of those local Casanova guys that you see on vacation that hook up with all of the pretty tourist wives, who left their husbands and kids at home. They create a whirlwind of experience for her for the night, they give her compliments, she absolutely knows that she will never do anything serious with them and she hooks up with them after a couple hours of talking. So I will act as playful, non-serious guy, nonchalantly use throw away lines about why I'm way too busy for any kind of relationship, "it's crazy that you have all this time to talk to people", maybe say in passing that I broke up with a girlfriend who lives in the other City because I could not give her time of day because I focus on my career and doing all of that while being as sexy as possible, is that kind of the right portrait of a perfect guy with whom girls will hook up quickly or am I missing something?

The biggest question is how exactly where the conversation examples, could I tell a girl that I'm not fit for relationship, or rather not even tell specifically but make her think that? Because Chase wrote that you should never explicitly tell a girl something like that

 

[MECHRuins]

It needs to be real, authentic.
Girls will pick up on any incongruency with you.

 

[Will_V]

So I'm struggling to understand how exactly will the boyfriend disqualification look like in my case.

So here's what I came up with: I'm going to be cosplaying one of those local Casanova guys that you see on vacation that hook up with all of the pretty tourist wives, who left their husbands and kids at home. They create a whirlwind of experience for her for the night, they give her compliments, she absolutely knows that she will never do anything serious with them and she hooks up with them after a couple hours of talking. So I will act as playful, non-serious guy, nonchalantly use throw away lines about why I'm way too busy for any kind of relationship, "it's crazy that you have all this time to talk to people", maybe say in passing that I broke up with a girlfriend who lives in the other City because I could not give her time of day because I focus on my career and doing all of that while being as sexy as possible, is that kind of the right portrait of a perfect guy with whom girls will hook up quickly or am I missing something?

The biggest question is how exactly where the conversation examples, could I tell a girl that I'm not fit for relationship, or rather not even tell specifically but make her think that? Because Chase wrote that you should never explicitly tell a girl something like that

First of all, do you have the problem that girls think you're relationship material? What specific things are you experiencing?

The way I see it, disqualifying yourself as a bf is taking the 'high-value' things about yourself and tweaking them so that they are more exciting and less reliable.

You give her fun, enjoyable conversations, but you tease her a lot.

You have a great sense of style, but it's a little bit eccentric.

You are confident and sure when you lead her, but you escalate things fast.

You have a fulfilling/successful life, but it's not particularly stable.

You clearly love women and feel comfortable with them, but you don't seem to value relationships too much.

You take her on fun dates, but they aren't a big deal.

Ideally, you are that guy she really desires who looks good on paper, but feels insecure about her ability to control (low attainability). You stimulate and arouse her, but without giving her a sense of opportunity to tame you. Then, having sex with you is the next best thing.

You can trade off more or less 'value' for excitement, depending on the setting.

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

I feel like girls like me a lot, but I fight for every new thing - to sit next to her, to start touching her legs, to start kissing her neck, to kiss her on the lips, like Urban Warfare. Street after street, house after house.

it's extremely exhausting and I think the reason it's so slow for me is that they like me a lot and they think this is going to be a great boyfriend for me.

I want to somehow disqualify myself as a boyfriend, but I can understand that it's not as simple as just telling her: by the way I have a girlfriend in another city, or by the way I'm so busy I will not have time for you, I need something smarter

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

If I tell her that I will only marry a super tall 6 feet 2 in girl to make kids that will conquer the world, will that be too harsh for any small girl who likes me on a date? Or if she likes me a lot she'll just think okay let's do a quick sex then?

 

[Red]

So I'm struggling to understand how exactly will the boyfriend disqualification look like in my case.

So here's what I came up with: I'm going to be cosplaying one of those local Casanova guys that you see on vacation that hook up with all of the pretty tourist wives, who left their husbands and kids at home. They create a whirlwind of experience for her for the night, they give her compliments, she absolutely knows that she will never do anything serious with them and she hooks up with them after a couple hours of talking. So I will act as playful, non-serious guy, nonchalantly use throw away lines about why I'm way too busy for any kind of relationship, "it's crazy that you have all this time to talk to people", maybe say in passing that I broke up with a girlfriend who lives in the other City because I could not give her time of day because I focus on my career and doing all of that while being as sexy as possible, is that kind of the right portrait of a perfect guy with whom girls will hook up quickly or am I missing something?

The biggest question is how exactly where the conversation examples, could I tell a girl that I'm not fit for relationship, or rather not even tell specifically but make her think that? Because Chase wrote that you should never explicitly tell a girl something like that

You SHOULD tell her you aren't looking for a relationship. And you should do it when you meet her or soon on the first date. Like, you should say the words VERY CLEARLY.

Three usual possibilities, 1. She's not into it and wants a husband/boyfriend and you've saved yourself some time and money 2. She says, "So you just want sex?" and you explain how you're a lover and friend, just not life partner material 3. She thanks you for actually being honest, unlike a lot of other guys, and proceeds to screw you.

Option 3 is not uncommon at all, especially if you're an attractive and sexy person. They'll often try and see if they can get you change your mind if you keep seeing them, but that's a problem for another day.

Seducers lie because they get off on deceiving and manipulating, but lovers are honest about what they have to give and don't worry if someone doesn't want that. They're are plenty of fish in the sea. This has the benefit of making the whole experience a win-win.

 

[thats_a_penis_disgustang]

You SHOULD tell her you aren't looking for a relationship. And you should do it when you meet her or soon on the first date. Like, you should say the words VERY CLEARLY.

Three usual possibilities, 1. She's not into it and wants a husband/boyfriend and you've saved yourself some time and money 2. She says, "So you just want sex?" and you explain how you're a lover and friend, just not life partner material 3. She thanks you for actually being honest, unlike a lot of other guys, and proceeds to screw you.

Option 3 is not uncommon at all, especially if you're an attractive and sexy person. They'll often try and see if they can get you change your mind if you keep seeing them, but that's a problem for another day.

Seducers lie because they get off on deceiving and manipulating, but lovers are honest about what they have to give and don't worry if someone doesn't want that. They're are plenty of fish in the sea. This has the benefit of making the whole experience a win-win.

how many girls persentage wise are in those options?

33/33/33 or different?

 

[Red]

how many girls persentage wise are in those options?

33/33/33 or different?

lol. I don't know.

I just know that enjoy myself better when I'm honest with people, and radical candor has a charm all its own.