Casual/FWB How to Turn her into a "fuck buddy"

[geralt of rivia]

Hey guys,
I would appreciate some advice with this:
I met a girl who was my mates girlfriends friend and we hit it off in town and went back to her place for sex. She seemed like the kind of girl who would be keen for a 'friends with benefits' sort of situation, but I have honestly no experience in this field. I think she has recently come off a decently long relationship and is currently sleeping around quite a bit. Its only been about four days and we have texted a bit, but she is a little bit slow to reply and I am kind of mirroring her response times making the conversation seem kind of slow. Should I just send a straight up text to see if she is also keen for a fwb relationship or should I give a booty call later this week? or is there another option haha
as you can probably tell in new to this
I could write down the text convo so far if that helps? I'm worried i'm using too much innuendo haha

cheers

 

[ray_zorse]

You don't need to do anything in particular. Just keep doing what you're doing. Yes, the booty call text seems like a good idea. I'm not super experienced with such things, but it sounds like you're doing fine.

The general principle in these cases is, if she continues to be down for sex just keep having her over and giving her great sex, don't bring up anything relationshippy including FWB topics, wait until she brings it up "so... what are we?" or "am I your girlfriend now?" and then respond as appropriate, e.g. by saying "I really enjoy being with you, I cannot give you that, but I can certainly give you good company and lots of fun in the hay"... other dudes might have better lines but that's the general PRINCIPLE. If she never brings it up, then it means she's fine for FWB relationship but doesn't want it to be out in the open or she might feel a bit slutty about it.

For more detailed strategy/planning there is an article on booty calling here, although I must admit I haven't read the article so I'm not sure if it's more about girls you've already laid or girls you haven't. If you do need advice with the texting then I suggest to put the conversation(s) to date in this thread and someone can advise you as to your next texting step.

Ray

PS The other thing (and this is where I often fall over) is DON'T take her out on dates, there are several reasons for this, firstly dating is a "getting to know you" thing where you are screening each other as potential sex partners, once you're already sex partners it looks very needy to keep dating her, when you could just be having sex... secondly dating is "boyfriendy", you can certainly take her on a date to reward her for good sex and good compliance but doing so moves you closer to relationship territory. The correct thing to do here is to invite her over for "easy date", that is she comes straight to your house, you do some activity like cooking or watching a video if you need to build more comfort but basically she comes over for sex. She stays an hour or three and then leaves. You aren't seen in public, you also don't do stuff like holding hands in public.

 

[geralt of rivia]

cheers man appreciate it!

I just have a small problem now: the last text I sent hasn't got a reply and its almost been a day, my plan is to just leave it and wait, what would you do?

 

[ray_zorse]

Better post the details of the conversation, as I said I'm not an expert, but generally what I do in that case is wait for 10 days and then re-engage... don't bring up the previous conversation just start with something like "hi, how are you... i'm enjoying the good weather, grabbed a walk today by the river hbu?". Anyway, I wouldn't be concerned about a 1 day response time. It's nothing. She will very likely get back to you. But if she doesn't, you should have pretty much completely moved on by the time you realize this... don't forget you're in abundance and have sexual options coming out your wazoo, you don't have time for women who won't play ball
Ray

 

[geralt of rivia]

OK thanks I just posted the full text convo in the field reports board

 

[Dude909]

Stop fluffing with her over text. Wait 3 days and send her an invite to meet at your place. Have sex. No sleeping over.

Wait 8 days and repeat.

 

[geralt of rivia]

ok cheers dude, is there a good time of day to send this text? and the blunter it is the better? my text game is kinda weak

 

[Dude909]

You don't banter with fuckbuddies! Fuckbuddies are for fucking. "Hey you free tonight?" Don't overthink it.

 

[geralt of rivia]

Sorry to be a naive, but best time of day to send a booty call text? Cheers

 

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