FU ...... Hurtin

[maximus6004]

Damn, so i posted a topic earlier..... about meeting a model who was the absolutely coolest girl i ever met.

I knew from all the reading and the psychology. What to expect, sometimes though, a little glimmer of hope flashes across a persons eyes. Well she went back to her ex, basically logically breaking it down she had invested more effort into him. Well and im not the most predictable of sorts.

Lost her though, shit, id be lying if i said it didnt hurt a little bit though. Saw it coming, and have some new girls in my phone..... but damn, i dont know guys this shit sucks.......

Sometimes being human sucks.....

I guess the fuck up was on my part. i always talk to woman, and they are always so willing to cheat because the guy isnt good enough but when they meet someone they deem higher value it scares them too. The lover, provider deal.

I don't know what else to say except, give myself a week and i'll be fine again.

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Re: FU...... Hurtin

Give more detail, homie. It doesn't help us much if you don't run through the process of how you lost her, your internal conflicts during your interactions, etc. Summarizing is nice, but if you want insight, and to GIVE insight, ya need more deets.


Anatman

 

[maximus6004]

Re: FU...... Hurtin

Ight, well, she is a really cool girl we connect like crazy. However she is leaving her ex. She said she doesnt feel like she is good enough for me.... shes absolutely beautiful but like chase said her self esteem isnt the best.

Shes choosing between me and her ex. She knows I have the man whore reputation so I feel like she is choosing him because its safe. Yea if its time to walk away, I can do that still doesnt help that I really care about this chick

 

[maximus6004]

Re: FU...... Hurtin

She said, she doesnt want to be with him but their are a bunch of deaths going on in his family, she doesnt want to leave him with nothing so she obviously has feelings for the guy still.

Im just being a little bitch I think....

 

[Nova]

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Im just being a little bitch I think....

yeh maybe its thats. not saying it definitely is... but maybe? you never know.

 

[maximus6004]

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Yea, im just going to sit back and chill out... im thinking too much. Its causing me to be a dumbass.

 

[Chase]

Re: FU...... Hurtin

Maximus-

This:

She said she doesnt feel like she is good enough for me

and this:

She said, she doesnt want to be with him but their are a bunch of deaths going on in his family, she doesnt want to leave him with nothing so she obviously has feelings for the guy still.

Tell you exactly what kind of girl she is: she's a female white knight, and she needs to save a male damsel in distress.

She meets you, and you've got your shit together, and seem like a complete, solid package, and immediately she feels like she'll never be able to make you emotionally reliant on her, which is what she needs to feel safe.

Then she sees the ex, who's an emotional peat bog, and she reasons if she can just save him, he will appreciate her and be hers forever.

With girls like this, you've really got to play up your "broken, wounded, Byronic man" side to get them. When you're the sexy-but-sad man with a dark past who can't promise her anything because he knows he'll just hurt her... just like he does every girl... girls like this go CRAZY for you. If you're just a cool dude though, you're kind of out of their leagues and not so relatable. They won't let themselves feel attraction for you because they don't think you could ever really feel it for them.

Chase

 

[maximus6004]

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That makes a lot of sense, she has been digging in those areas a lot.

Thanks.

Max