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Starting this journal to document and reflect on my approaches. I made four daygame approaches today.
Approaches
Girl I had to open from behind
I had seen this girl from quite the distance and decided to run after her. Running after girls is generally something I am quite bothered by (because I don't like the attention it brings on me) but for some reason I decided to go for it.
I know that I should be running up ahead of her and then turning and opening that way. But the thing is, this girl turned around as I was closing in on her (probably because she heard me) and it forced me to just open while I was behind her.
I told her I thought she was pretty and asked if she was single to which she said no and I let her go after that. Honestly, I'm just happy I approached.
Blonde fit girl that hooked
This girl had walked past me and I hesitated to open in that moment. But I decided to turn around and follow her until she stopped at a street crossing. I then opened her there and she was pretty receptive. I opened with a simple complement opener (she was pretty).
Funnily enough, I had planned on just asking for her number (I know this is bad) but it felt weirder to do that than just converse with her. So we talked for like 30 seconds about what it was like living in the city and then the walk sign turned on so she started walking. One thing I should have improved on here is leading the interaction. When it turned to the walk sign, I should have told her to cross with me but instead it was like I was following her.
We then (while walking) talked about what we both do for work before she asked me where I'm even going. Then I told her I needed to actually go the other way but I was only walking there to talk with her (lol). I then asked her out to which she hesitantly said yes and then said "actually maybe." But we exchanged numbers.
I sent an icebreaker text to which she responded positively. Let's see if I can get her out on a date.
Overall, not the strongest approach but happy I got the approach in. I was definitely nervous and there wasn't a ton of flirtation (I only teased her like once). I'd say the close was overall not too smooth either (which is why I think she was hesitant to commit to the date). I need to transition into this better.
Young, fashionable girl I had to run after
This girl was cute. I was able to run after her without her turning around so I got the approach angle right (from in front). Thing is I was still too nervous to actually talk to her so I just immediately tried number closing ("can I get your number?" -- yes I know it's bad) which she turned down politely.
Happy I did the approach but one of these days I'm going to have to go out without allowing myself to number close. I do this a lot just because I'm so nervous to approach.
Girl waiting at bus stop
I opened this girl who very nicely told me she had a boyfriend and told me to have a nice day.
I really like the girls here. The rejections are so kind haha.
Reflections
I'm still really apprehensive about approaching. The biggest sticking point I need to work on is actually approaching (Approach Anxiety) and ejecting (probably related to AA).
I do think if I can actually consistently approach, I should be able to refine and iterate.
Approaches
Girl I had to open from behind
I had seen this girl from quite the distance and decided to run after her. Running after girls is generally something I am quite bothered by (because I don't like the attention it brings on me) but for some reason I decided to go for it.
I know that I should be running up ahead of her and then turning and opening that way. But the thing is, this girl turned around as I was closing in on her (probably because she heard me) and it forced me to just open while I was behind her.
I told her I thought she was pretty and asked if she was single to which she said no and I let her go after that. Honestly, I'm just happy I approached.
Blonde fit girl that hooked
This girl had walked past me and I hesitated to open in that moment. But I decided to turn around and follow her until she stopped at a street crossing. I then opened her there and she was pretty receptive. I opened with a simple complement opener (she was pretty).
Funnily enough, I had planned on just asking for her number (I know this is bad) but it felt weirder to do that than just converse with her. So we talked for like 30 seconds about what it was like living in the city and then the walk sign turned on so she started walking. One thing I should have improved on here is leading the interaction. When it turned to the walk sign, I should have told her to cross with me but instead it was like I was following her.
We then (while walking) talked about what we both do for work before she asked me where I'm even going. Then I told her I needed to actually go the other way but I was only walking there to talk with her (lol). I then asked her out to which she hesitantly said yes and then said "actually maybe." But we exchanged numbers.
I sent an icebreaker text to which she responded positively. Let's see if I can get her out on a date.
Overall, not the strongest approach but happy I got the approach in. I was definitely nervous and there wasn't a ton of flirtation (I only teased her like once). I'd say the close was overall not too smooth either (which is why I think she was hesitant to commit to the date). I need to transition into this better.
Young, fashionable girl I had to run after
This girl was cute. I was able to run after her without her turning around so I got the approach angle right (from in front). Thing is I was still too nervous to actually talk to her so I just immediately tried number closing ("can I get your number?" -- yes I know it's bad) which she turned down politely.
Happy I did the approach but one of these days I'm going to have to go out without allowing myself to number close. I do this a lot just because I'm so nervous to approach.
Girl waiting at bus stop
I opened this girl who very nicely told me she had a boyfriend and told me to have a nice day.
I really like the girls here. The rejections are so kind haha.
Reflections
I'm still really apprehensive about approaching. The biggest sticking point I need to work on is actually approaching (Approach Anxiety) and ejecting (probably related to AA).
I do think if I can actually consistently approach, I should be able to refine and iterate.
