I’ll try to make it !

[RedNeck]

Folks ,

I asked this girl out two times before , I got soft no .
Last and third time , I asked her
I persisted pretty hard . I got “ I need to check but I will try to make it though.”
I feel it is a cold lead , but how should I proceed:

1-Not doing anything and hope she will reach out to me.

2- I make one last attempt before the date and try to get a confirmation.

She knows ppl I know so repercussions are a possibility.

 

[Fluxcapacitor]

@RedNeck dude! You got rejected twice and the third was a polite rejection but a rejection nonetheless.... and that was after persisting- which I'm guessing wasn't persisting and would have been needy, desperate and chasing behaviour. I could be wrong but you're more invested than she is dude.

Personally I'd back off, meet other girls and pre selection might be your friend. No guarantee she'd reach out but nexting a girl and moving on stops you wasting your time.

Always have a cut off, I will ask x number of times and then I'm done. 3 is usually the recommended number for this.

If you really want to give it everything ball in her court her or give her a parting shot. There's articles on both of these techniques, read them and then give it a go if you choose to.

If you share the same social circle either drop it or be very socially elegant on the ball in her court. It has to feel like you don't need her, you'd like her. If she's not interested that's cool and you're not going too be weird. After either of the above techniques you're done. You can't chase or it loses its power and you look like a jackass

 

[RedNeck]

@RedNeck
Always have a cut off, I will ask x number of times and then I'm done. 3 is usually the recommended number for this.

Thankful man . This is what I was looking for.
You know there’s a fine line between persistence and neediness . I made sure I didn’t cross it . Circumstances is the key differentiator between needy and persistent.

I can’t share the whole story too much details , but thanks again