I ask for help in the form of an outline

[thedude]

Dear Chase and or any man who is more experienced than I,

Hi, my name is Brandon and as my username suggests I am a freshman in college about to finish my first semester. A little bit about myself, I went to an all boy's HS before college and never did anything with girls at all. I only made out with a girl for the first since I got to college and have made out a grand total of 4 times, pathetic I know. But I digress, I have been trying hard to change, I am introverted by my nature but dammit I want to succeed with both woman and other parts of my life like my accounting major and I know I cannot do that with my hands in my pockets.

So I stumbled upon this site and have read quite a lot. I am going to try that newbie challenge when I get back home from college at my local mall but while I am doing that I want to get some sort of faint outline together. What I need is... a list of actions in chronological order of how an interaction should play out. I have read stuff about cold openers, eye contact, repartee, rapport... deep diving, screening and qualifying but I am unsure of how to put all these things together. Don't get me wrong, I do not intend to make some sort of itinerary for a conversation, or any carefully constructed sentences to use but like some guys were talking about in another thread about thinking ahead when it comes to logistics I need something that can tell me... I want to make some sort of plan and try to follow it and adapt on the fly if need be which it probably will.

To summarize, I hope all that I have written here makes sense and that it is not too much. I want my 2nd semester to be a new beginning, I am studious and get good grades but what I want is something much more and I think this community can help. So I ask for this little outline, I probably do some of the things like deep diving/screening already but I do not realize or I do it sporadically I mean my first 2 make outs at parties were through talking so I am not hopeless. But I need a list of things that I can look at and check my progress, I need to go about my work methodically, doing things consciously and make them 2nd nature in time.

Thanks,
Brandon

 

[Light]

Hi Brandon,

I'm going to see if I got this right.... what you really want is:
"The ability to do all the right thing Smoothly as if it is your 2nd nature, knowing how to adapt to different scenarios, and inproving your People SKill. Correct?"


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[thedude]

Yes, bah I wanted to change my post and make it extremely terse but there was no edit button.

But what I am curious about is also if something like this is correct

1. opener/ approach
2. deep dive, repartee, building rapport, screening/qualifying, move her somewhere
3. Get her out of there, back home
4. Make a move

General- being sexy, noticing escalation windows, the last 5%, other overall stuff that I cannot think of atm

 

[Light]

Well yes... that is basically it.
Your bullet points should be short and sweet so you get the important things down.
The rest of the details you will just have to build on, one at a time, so that it becomes 2nd nature.
It's like learning how to drive a car. First you have to memorise the seat belts, mirrors, signals, clutch, break etc.. Eventually the more practice you get, you will do it automatically.
It is a skill built of repetition.
I say don't worry too much about your list.

What I would recommend you do however, is put a time limit on each outline too. The key is to move fast, so you should be moving her within 5-10 mins after your approach, and bringing her back home within 2 hours or so. It is different for different situations, but I suggest putting a time window against each outline will help you more.


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[Franco]

Hi CollegeFreshman,

But what I am curious about is also if something like this is correct

1. opener/ approach
2. deep dive, repartee, building rapport, screening/qualifying, move her somewhere
3. Get her out of there, back home
4. Make a move

If I were to slightly edit your process here, I would definitely attempt to move her before you deep dive. There is a small period of time right after the opener than you can build rapport, but you should only build just enough of it so that you can ask her to move somewhere with you and have her comply. Also, moving her somewhere goes hand-in-hand with using the hard push technique. Once you get some compliance from her, you will find that deep diving will be much more successful.

As a last note, you may not always be able to get a girl you've approached back home right at that moment (depending on circumstances). If getting her back home is not an option, then you would replace #3 with "get her phone number" and then replace #4 with "get her out on a date." Then getting her back home and making a move would come thereafter.

Hope this helps!

- Franco

 

[thedude]

Thanks Franco,

I think I am going to make a post some time in the future with more updated and thorough outline for one of you guys to approve.

But before I go how do you guys find the articles you need so easily? I am struggling to find an article on repartee atm and other terms so I can understand exactly what they are. Any hints?

 

[Franco]

But before I go how do you guys find the articles you need so easily? I am struggling to find an article on repartee atm and other terms so I can understand exactly what they are. Any hints?

Yeah, there are a ton of articles on this website now. There is actually a search bar to search for keywords within the articles. I have linked you to the search page with the word "repartee" by clicking here.

You can bookmark this page if you'd like so that you can use it to search for stuff in the future. =)

- Franco