I finally direct approached a girl(3.5 years after finding gc)

[Starboy]

Today was a nice warm day in nyc. I thought I had to take advantage of this nice weather and go talk to some girls. I was supposed to go yesterday,but I backed out cuz of a headache from drinking with my friends smh

I got home from the gym and felt good from working out. I eat and change into what I felt comfortable in and had to encourage myself to leave thru self talk and positive affirmations. I set a goal of approaching 4 girls to mirror Chase's suggestion.

I took the subway and got off this stop next to Colombia University which always has cute,hot white girls in the area and started from there.

I ended up passing by a lot of cute girls without opening them. Anxiety kept creeping up as they were walking close to my direction until it was too late and they passed by me. A lot of girls had headphones on.

If they walked by me I didn't wanna turn around and run back to open them because it felt too uncomfortable for me to try and I didn't want to risk scaring the girl. I wasn't willing to risk it so I always ate my losses.

I went to a park nearby to check it out. As I was leaving the park I saw this girl walking in my direction and I forced myself to try and talk to her. I stopped close to her and tried to say excuse me,but she kept on walking. She had airpods in and I spoke very softly so I don't know if she heard me or just ignored me. Probably both.

First Approach
It was after I had bought something from zara and came outside that I actually direct approached a girl. I had seen her inside while I was waiting on line to check out. She was blonde,close to my height,with tight leggings, and a nice big jiggly butt. She had a dog and she was talking to another dog owner while the dogs were playing. I had waited for her and her kids to leave and pretended like I was looking at something on my phone.

Then after they left I go up to her and it went something like this:
Me: "Excuse me. I know this is random,but I just wanted to tell you that I think you're cute."
Blonde: "oh thank you" in a accepting enough manner
Me: what kind of dog do you have?
Blonde: It's a [bla bla bla forgot the dog breed].
Me: It looks really fluffy.
Blonde: Yeah it is [she describes her dog]
Me: Is it heavy? It looks heavy I saw you carry it in the store.
Blonde:No I just didn't know if dogs were allowed so I just left.
Me: Oh ok. You didn't find something you wanted in the store?
Blonde:No I wasn't really there to buy anything. My roomate wanted something. I'm just waiting for her.
Me:Oh ok[I took a brief pause]
Then she said thanks or thank you as a way to hint that she wanted to end the interaction so I took that as my cue to leave. As I walked away and crossed the street I couldn't stop myself from smiling and grinning from that approach. Luckily I was wearing a mask.

I felt really good from that approach. I was proud of myself. I wasn't super charming or charismatic. Also I was so concerned with getting myself to approach and saying something to her that I didn't even introduce myself to her or ask her name. I completely forgot that part LOL. I also forgot to actually say bye to the girl and wish her well. But she was nice enough to acknowledge me and converse with me a little bit.

I finally did it. I first discovered girlschase in 2017,but I was never serious about going out to talk to girls.
Today I only spoke to 1 girl and got ignored by the girl at the park when I had a goal of approaching 4 girls,but I felt so good from approaching the blonde that I thought I could give myself a pass.

I really wanna build on this experience. It took all the right circumstances for me to approach that one girl. The sidewalk had to be empty,she didn't have headphones on and I was lucky her roomate didn't come out the store yet. I left my house at 3:30 and didn't actually speak to a girl until nearly 6:30. I walked from 116th st to 66st and only spoke to 1 hot girl when there was others I missed out on.
I have to be willing to stop girls on the sidewalk even if there's people around to hear and even if she has headphones.

I knew that cold approaching wasn't easy based on what I read from the articles. But it's harder than I would've expected it to be. I thought I would do more, but the fear of strangers glimpsing at me clumsily approaching a cute girl held me back. Even if my face was covered by a mask. It felt like there were consequences if I tried to talk to a girl and fucked up. If I creeped a girl out or gave weird awkward vibes and other people overheard i'd be a laughingstock. At least that's how it felt in my head.

Other takeaways
I noticed I may be intimidated by taller white girls. In my mind I worry about her objections or resistance to dating a shorter guy like me and whether i'm worthy enough [i'm only 5'8]. Also i'm insecure about whether I can pull hot white girls since i'm a brown skinned south asian. I had never seen guys my race pulling white girls so that's a mindset I need to change. Although i've gotten ioi from some attractive white girls before.

I've got a long way to go. Hopefully I can get more done and post a lay report someday.

 

[Skills]

Props, on doing your first approach, but there was no reason to go direct in this situation, you made it harder for yourself... Your take aways are totally off....

You should just have gone and talk about the dog (situational), that opener really was not needed due to the dog..... your questioning was ok, then you would have ask if she and her boyfriend usually go to dog parks?

but you did good, you need to put in more numbers...

Also i'm insecure about whether I can pull hot white girls since i'm a brown skinned south asian. I had never seen guys my race pulling white girls so that's a mindset I need to change. Although i've gotten ioi from some attractive white girls before.

^ if you are the irt i will shot myself, i hope you are not him...

 

[Starboy]

Props, on doing your first approach, but there was no reason to go direct in this situation, you made it harder for yourself... Your take aways are totally off....

You should just have gone and talk about the dog (situational), that opener really was not needed due to the dog..... your questioning was ok, then you would have ask if she and her boyfriend usually go to dog parks?

but you did good, you need to put in more numbers...




^ if you are the irt i will shot myself, i hope you are not him...

Well yeah I coulda asked her about the dog,but truthfully I didn't want to make it about the dog I wanted to focus on her and display intent. I thought it would be a lot better and she would at least know that i'm into her even if she doesn't reciprocate.

My takeaways are how I think I felt in the moment because those thoughts do creep in my mind. I'm more timid around taller girls because I don't feel like I can be more dominant if i'm shorter even if by only an inch.

Also i've always preferred spanish girls since we look more alike and because i've grown up around spanish girls more than anyone else so that's where the doubts about white girls come from.

Yeah I gotta put in numbers which is the hard part. I only went cuz it was nice and hot and it's about to get colder in ny which means lower emotional state from myself and women.

Haha I pinky promise i'm not IRT aka oh pry xD. Fuck that guy . I'm not a race or a height whiner. Besides if I worry about looking too asian I can get a buzzcut and boom! I look Dominican lol. (Bonus points if I ever decide to get earrings.)