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I get more girls showing interest when I act feminine?

slickskin09

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This is something I've been noticing. I have feminine 'features' including face and hands etc.

I noticed when I act 'stoic', girls don't really engage me much.
But when I act 'playful & feminine', girls are much more open.

One example is when I was 'stoic' this one pretty cute girl wasn't giving me much response or more aloof but as soon as I started showing 'feminine' mannerisms a few months later when I saw her again, she ended up showing me a picture of her ass on her phone and she asked me if I 'wanted to go smoke'.

or in texts I'll text like

'stoppp, ur such a temptressss and distracting" with the face melting emojis

and she'll ramp up showing me butt pictures and 'tease' me more. where as when I text 'stoic', it doesnt have the similar effect.


I tried reading this but has anyone experienced anything like this?
 

lceman

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I've experienced that a lot in the past. You know what kind of guys girls absolutely love to be around, but don't have sex with? Gay guys.
It's pretty easy to be silly, tease girls, and get them to love you without any sort of sexual undertone. So if this is happening with multiple girls, check to see if they are actually more attracted or just more engaged.

Also, there's a point of non-reactiveness where you simply don't engage with the world around you, and girls assume you don't like them because you're not reacting like a normal guy would. You can definitely be too 'stoic', it may be the case with this girl that she was simply interpreting your non engagement as you not liking her.
 

slickskin09

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I've experienced that a lot in the past. You know what kind of guys girls absolutely love to be around, but don't have sex with? Gay guys.
It's pretty easy to be silly, tease girls, and get them to love you without any sort of sexual undertone. So if this is happening with multiple girls, check to see if they are actually more attracted or just more engaged.

Also, there's a point of non-reactiveness where you simply don't engage with the world around you, and girls assume you don't like them because you're not reacting like a normal guy would. You can definitely be too 'stoic', it may be the case with this girl that she was simply interpreting your non engagement as you not liking her.
Thats what I thought too. But I experimented with it where we talk about sex and the girl pulls me by putting up an obvious escalation window instead of the other way around.
 
the right date makes getting her back home a piece of cake

HoofHearted

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As I am recently (re)learning

The only thing that matters are actual outcomes

If you are getting positive attention in lieu of hugs&kisses, you're just playing yourself.
 

Zoro

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Feminine is the magnet, pulls others towards it.

Masculine is the penetration, it seeks out and engages.

If you’re in masculine mode, you’re going to have to follow it up with action and follow through. No flower is going to seek out the bee.

That being said you can and should mix some of these styles together, but as a man, your MO is masculine.

Stoicness isn’t necessarily good game, it’s more a way to keep you grounded. More useful to a warrior or wizard than to a lover.

Masculinity and femininity compliment each other, use that playfulness with action. Don’t lose control of your emotions but show them. Don’t be a flower, be a peacock.
 
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