Greetings, gentlemen.
Last Thursday, I went on a date with a new girl whom I cold approached at a bar without even leaving my seat.
Background:
I was sitting at the bar, I lightly pre-opened her with a touch on her elbow and without saying a word I moved my head signaling her to come closer, which she absolutely did. I held a 10-minute conversation before I get her to agree for a date with me and then give me her number. During my interaction with her I used abundantly pregnant pauses and intense eyes staring to which she commented: "Your gaze penetrates me"
The date:
It felt idyllic to me. Very strong emotional connection seemed to be present between us. I took her to a an atmospheric lounge bar and we had two drinks and stayed for two hours. During this time she would:
- React enthusiastically to everything I had to say or respond (Her: I truly believe you have a great answer for anything!)
- Say things such as "I love the way you use words!", "I love to hear you talk!", "I learn so much from you, but I have so little to teach you!", "Your gaze is so strong, I feel you see through my brain!"
- Touch me whenever she agreed with me
- Comply with my touching her hand
- Comply with my command to come closer and let me smell her neck
- Comply with my command to stretch her leg towards me to supposedly inspect her sexy boots
And later in my car when I took her to her place (my logistics are bad, I live 30 minutes away from city centre and I didn't think I could pull her on first date):
- I switch off the engine and go for the kiss. She resists, but stays in my car, while she doesn't resist holding hands
- She tells me she had a 5-year relationship and she is not looking to move on to something new
- I withdraw my touch. She complains that she wants it back.
- I caress her hair, massage the base of her scull, touch her leg for the next 10 minutes
- She finally complies to kissing
- She says I am the most charming man she has ever met. I tell her I am not good in playing social roles in women's lives, but if she feels she can't move on sexually with me, I am glad to have met her.
- She says: "So, we can't go out again otherwise?". I say: "Who knows...and I signal her goodnight"
- She hesitantly open the door and left
Three days later, last Sunday:
- I call her. She doesn't pick up the phone. 4 hours later I see her approaching me, as I was having coffee with a male and female friend at a cafeteria. She was in the same place. She saw me from afar. I didn't see her and she walked all the way to me to just greet me.
- I greeted her with pleasant surprise and I told her I called her earlier to which she replied "Yes...I saw your call much later and I omitted to return it", I said "It's ok, no problem" and I cut the conversation with a smile waiting for her to leave back to her place.
- Yesterday, Tuesday, again I call her. No reply.
Guys, what is your take?
Did I overprovide good feelings to her?
Was I an overkill in terms of value and she auto-rejected?
Did I mistakenly project myself as "the ideal man" and she auto-rejected?
Do you think there is any point to try to get her on a second date?
Last Thursday, I went on a date with a new girl whom I cold approached at a bar without even leaving my seat.
Background:
I was sitting at the bar, I lightly pre-opened her with a touch on her elbow and without saying a word I moved my head signaling her to come closer, which she absolutely did. I held a 10-minute conversation before I get her to agree for a date with me and then give me her number. During my interaction with her I used abundantly pregnant pauses and intense eyes staring to which she commented: "Your gaze penetrates me"
The date:
It felt idyllic to me. Very strong emotional connection seemed to be present between us. I took her to a an atmospheric lounge bar and we had two drinks and stayed for two hours. During this time she would:
- React enthusiastically to everything I had to say or respond (Her: I truly believe you have a great answer for anything!)
- Say things such as "I love the way you use words!", "I love to hear you talk!", "I learn so much from you, but I have so little to teach you!", "Your gaze is so strong, I feel you see through my brain!"
- Touch me whenever she agreed with me
- Comply with my touching her hand
- Comply with my command to come closer and let me smell her neck
- Comply with my command to stretch her leg towards me to supposedly inspect her sexy boots
And later in my car when I took her to her place (my logistics are bad, I live 30 minutes away from city centre and I didn't think I could pull her on first date):
- I switch off the engine and go for the kiss. She resists, but stays in my car, while she doesn't resist holding hands
- She tells me she had a 5-year relationship and she is not looking to move on to something new
- I withdraw my touch. She complains that she wants it back.
- I caress her hair, massage the base of her scull, touch her leg for the next 10 minutes
- She finally complies to kissing
- She says I am the most charming man she has ever met. I tell her I am not good in playing social roles in women's lives, but if she feels she can't move on sexually with me, I am glad to have met her.
- She says: "So, we can't go out again otherwise?". I say: "Who knows...and I signal her goodnight"
- She hesitantly open the door and left
Three days later, last Sunday:
- I call her. She doesn't pick up the phone. 4 hours later I see her approaching me, as I was having coffee with a male and female friend at a cafeteria. She was in the same place. She saw me from afar. I didn't see her and she walked all the way to me to just greet me.
- I greeted her with pleasant surprise and I told her I called her earlier to which she replied "Yes...I saw your call much later and I omitted to return it", I said "It's ok, no problem" and I cut the conversation with a smile waiting for her to leave back to her place.
- Yesterday, Tuesday, again I call her. No reply.
Guys, what is your take?
Did I overprovide good feelings to her?
Was I an overkill in terms of value and she auto-rejected?
Did I mistakenly project myself as "the ideal man" and she auto-rejected?
Do you think there is any point to try to get her on a second date?