I have trouble building connections

[Spyce D]

Well , I am talking about with girls in social circles and girls on dates ... Not about cold approach.

I either rely too on banter or to balance it out ... I just do platonic convos .


I have been working on social circle for the first time in my life since September... And even though I improved a lot and bring around women became normal to me ... But I can feel that I lack something substantial/ meaningful with them even as " friends " with women.

I am just a guy who is there in the class ..who won't even be considered for a ( after classes ) friend by most of the women .. interact daily .

I just don't know what I am doing wrong and it isn't cuz where I live cuz other guys are partying with their " female friends " but I never get invites ..even though I am interacting with these women too.

But , I know that I shouldn't feel entitled to anything and I just consider it as a training ground ...but wouldn't it be better if I could improve this area .... Which would also help me with women in general .

 

[ulrich]

Are you having meaningful conversations with them to the point that you know and share personal things about each other?

Are you inviting them to do something in the after hours or in between classes?
Small stuff like let’s get a coffee or walk me to the library

 

[Spyce D]

Are you having meaningful conversations with them to the point that you know and share personal things about each other?

Are you inviting them to do something in the after hours or in between classes?
Small stuff like let’s get a coffee or walk me to the library

Unfortunately, nope .

I think I had completely forgotten about such things after coming from break ( from seduction)

 

[James D]

Are you having meaningful conversations with them to the point that you know and share personal things about each other?

Are you inviting them to do something in the after hours or in between classes?
Small stuff like let’s get a coffee or walk me to the library

+1

That right there should be enough to create some meaningul connections.

I'll add one more:

Have inside jokes.

 

[ulrich]

Definitely, the best way to be interesting to other people is to become interested in them.

Don’t wait for them to invite you… learn what they like and invite them.
Popular kids are popular because they are always inviting people they know.

 

[KJ Francis]

Good idea from Ulrich to rake the initiative to make small invites

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[Spyce D]

I did what you guys said .

It brought different results .

I was able to have longer convos with those chicks

 

[ulrich]

I’m proud @Spyce D
Keep improving!!