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Went out alone Saturday, and it was tough most of the time. I thought that this night is wast gonna go anywhere. Even had one incident that could have resulted in a fight ( maybe ill post about it in the future because its relevant with something hector preaches).
Couple of approaches, nothing crazy, and the venues were not that packed with just girls sets (went to this club for the first time, 25years+ entrance)
Approached these 2 girls, blonde gave me bitch face, brunette was way more receptive. I was basically warming up (first set of that venue), hence low effort set. Talked some bullshit, and left to scout more. Havent found anything, so I sat at the booth and thought about leaving. After 20 mins, decided to stay some more and eventually talked again to first two girls. This time the blonde was much more receptive, and I shifted my attention to her. Run, couple of gambits and routines on her, with a lot of empty spaces and just silences. Honestly I wasnt actually trying to get somewhere with her. They even talked to other guys a little bit, and walked away from me a few times (usually 2-3 meters). I went after them, which is not my style, but fuck it.
I knew they are open to my and later I knew that blonde likes me, but i sensed that brunette was getting cold and probably jealous. I focused my attention to blonde, the eye contact was there, she was ok with me touching her waist, even near breasts area. (When she opened to me and told me that she thinks her looks are 6 out of 10, and that she need to get some better tities). We got very close to each other, and I challenged her to a stare contest, (loser buys drinks). She agreed.
Here we are, our eyes locked, and I am still being silly, and honestly not that comfortable. I was not enjoying myself, and later I had realized that i wasnt teasing her and being aggressive enough. We got very close, and I was saying some shit, without intention to kiss her or even touch her (I dont know why, it hasnt even crossed my mind). Someone bumped into my leg and 2 seconds after (I dont know why, maybe I was concerned about her friend?) i looked away. It was totally unintentional, plus this game has started to get boring (about 3 min in). I was supriesed and quickly realized that I just lost, but I was the first one to do acknowledge it. Then she jumped up all happy because she won , and demaded her drink. I was trying to make some excuse up, but she wasnt buying it. I did not want to buy her that drink (couple of reasons), unless it would get me to isolation with her. I proposed we go to the booth, and drink it there, she said: - no, here. Then after some more pursiung and arguing, she said: Im going on the dance floor, come if you decide to buy me that drink.
5 min later, I come up behind her, pull her in from the waist. She was not sure who it was, so she was giving my slight resistance, but when she fullly turned and saw me she was relieved and had a smile on her face. I told her im not going to buy her drink if she is not willing to go with my to the bar to buy it. She again refused and I gave up.
Im sure i could have done way better and I think I made this mistakes:
I was not touchng and teasing her enough.
I was not goal oriented enough, i.e. going for the kiss close.
I should have touched her, even make her lose by nudging her, getting close etc. when playing the stare game.
I shoud have bought her that drink for her.
I got the impression that once I lost that game her attraction level kind of decreased, even though it was still decent.
Also the logistics were fucked up, because of her friend who was alone whole night.
I forgot to mention that they are from the neighbour country so they were probably on the vacation.
What I did well, what I did wrong, was I very close to kiss her, wqasa her friend a problem, what do you guys think?
Couple of approaches, nothing crazy, and the venues were not that packed with just girls sets (went to this club for the first time, 25years+ entrance)
Approached these 2 girls, blonde gave me bitch face, brunette was way more receptive. I was basically warming up (first set of that venue), hence low effort set. Talked some bullshit, and left to scout more. Havent found anything, so I sat at the booth and thought about leaving. After 20 mins, decided to stay some more and eventually talked again to first two girls. This time the blonde was much more receptive, and I shifted my attention to her. Run, couple of gambits and routines on her, with a lot of empty spaces and just silences. Honestly I wasnt actually trying to get somewhere with her. They even talked to other guys a little bit, and walked away from me a few times (usually 2-3 meters). I went after them, which is not my style, but fuck it.
I knew they are open to my and later I knew that blonde likes me, but i sensed that brunette was getting cold and probably jealous. I focused my attention to blonde, the eye contact was there, she was ok with me touching her waist, even near breasts area. (When she opened to me and told me that she thinks her looks are 6 out of 10, and that she need to get some better tities). We got very close to each other, and I challenged her to a stare contest, (loser buys drinks). She agreed.
Here we are, our eyes locked, and I am still being silly, and honestly not that comfortable. I was not enjoying myself, and later I had realized that i wasnt teasing her and being aggressive enough. We got very close, and I was saying some shit, without intention to kiss her or even touch her (I dont know why, it hasnt even crossed my mind). Someone bumped into my leg and 2 seconds after (I dont know why, maybe I was concerned about her friend?) i looked away. It was totally unintentional, plus this game has started to get boring (about 3 min in). I was supriesed and quickly realized that I just lost, but I was the first one to do acknowledge it. Then she jumped up all happy because she won , and demaded her drink. I was trying to make some excuse up, but she wasnt buying it. I did not want to buy her that drink (couple of reasons), unless it would get me to isolation with her. I proposed we go to the booth, and drink it there, she said: - no, here. Then after some more pursiung and arguing, she said: Im going on the dance floor, come if you decide to buy me that drink.
5 min later, I come up behind her, pull her in from the waist. She was not sure who it was, so she was giving my slight resistance, but when she fullly turned and saw me she was relieved and had a smile on her face. I told her im not going to buy her drink if she is not willing to go with my to the bar to buy it. She again refused and I gave up.
Im sure i could have done way better and I think I made this mistakes:
I was not touchng and teasing her enough.
I was not goal oriented enough, i.e. going for the kiss close.
I should have touched her, even make her lose by nudging her, getting close etc. when playing the stare game.
I shoud have bought her that drink for her.
I got the impression that once I lost that game her attraction level kind of decreased, even though it was still decent.
Also the logistics were fucked up, because of her friend who was alone whole night.
I forgot to mention that they are from the neighbour country so they were probably on the vacation.
What I did well, what I did wrong, was I very close to kiss her, wqasa her friend a problem, what do you guys think?
