i think about game too much when i’m on the field

[barneystin]

it’s midway through my semester at college and i’ve been doing a lot of experimenting with night game and my text game. I also just got my first same night lay recently (LR coming soon). I’m decent at day game so i think i’m really good at socializing and reading people. I’ve been working on different parts of my game like non-verbal openers, escalating on the dancefloor etc However, i think my perfectionism has led me to fixate on technique way too much. At the end of the day, i’m fine with just a lay but after consuming tons of seduction material, i tend to fixate on just following the scripts presented in the material. This has given me a kind of approach anxiety (because of fear of violating law of least effort, or lack of approach invitations etc, for example). Also, i think it makes me come across as out of sync with the environment - everyone is out there having fun on the dancefloor while i’m being calculating and looking out for approach invitations. My interactions with women also feel more impersonal, like they’re just a number and a means to test/improve my game. this makes it harder for me to connect with the girls and eventually stimulate them enough to hook

Has anyone struggled with this? My current solution is to just focus on having fun and being in the moment while trusting that my game will carry me through (haven’t had the chance to field test this yet)

Also, is it too much of stretch to aim for consistent same night lays? i’ve found that getting numbers don’t lead anywhere since girls always flake. However, the probability of getting a same night lay seems so low that i don’t know if night game is worth it for getting results

 

[TwoNameGame]

fear of violating law of least effort

As you build experience, this becomes second nature and effortless. Sometimes, she doesn't know.

I recently planned out an entire date in advance (even location scouting) and the girl thought it was on the fly as she happened to say things that made it natural to bounce (one of which I missed until she reminded me after the date).

lack of approach invitations

Might be me, but I never cared for approach indicators.

They are just a technique which help but don't make or break interactions (unless she is obviously in a bad mood or busy).

everyone is out there having fun on the dancefloor while i’m being calculating

Nothing wrong with being different. Sometimes people are calculating in college while you enjoy the class.

My current solution is to just focus on having fun and being in the moment while trusting that my game will carry me through (haven’t had the chance to field test this yet)

Rule of thumb in this forum: field test, then come back.

Also, is it too much of stretch to aim for consistent same night lays?

I've seen some posts saying it isn't a stretch, but I am no expert.