Dating App Dates:
Wasn’t really going to post much about dates I get from the dating apps, since I usually do pretty well in regards to those, but I’ve had a string of bad ones.
For context, I’ve been on about 50 first dates in the past two years, all from Bumble or Hinge. About 30% of them I either fuck or at least get their shirt off on the first date. About 41% of all the women I take their shirt off eventually, wither it be the second, third or whatever date.
Bur here’s where the bragging ends, because the last 7 dates haven’t lead to anything. Except one led to a second date. But all the women ended up not wanted to continue seeing each other.
Here’s how my last date went:
Went out for drinks on a Tuesday night. Off the bat I felt an almost surprised/disappointed look in her face? Almost like she thought I looked different than my photos. But I made sure I don’t look different then them so I don’t think that was it. I saw this a couple times during the night, but only at the beginning of the date. But it could just be a look of nervousness.
I have noticed (or thought I noticed) similar things on other dates, but then those dates ended up going home with me so maybe it’s just in my head. I’m leaning more to this, because I know sometimes I look too deep into things.
Anyways, I do some light teasing, a bit of qualifying (are you the kind of person that is X?), making her laugh, etc. I notice when I lean back she leans in, which I see as an IOI. I keep the conversation going, I make a mental note of topics/questions before the dates so all lulls in the conversation are quickly overwritten with the next questions.
The night goes on, and she agrees to go to another bar for a second drink. I had a venue in mind, but there ended up being a private party going on.
This is where I suggest wine back at my place, a line that either (almost) solidifies its going to be a great night OR I get a polite/sometimes not so polite decline. The line has worked so many unexpected times in the past that it’s a go-to, but now I’m thinking it’s too much of a Hail Mary and might be contributing to me getting such a high fail rate recently. I only go for this if I am noticing IOIs and they agreed to a second/third drink somewhere else, never if they want to call it a night or I feel things aren’t going well.
She says it’s tempting but politely declines. We end up searching for other venues on foot, and after about 10-15 minutes she says she’s actually tired and wants to call it a night. I offer to drive/walk her home (she lived close) but she declined. We call it a night and say our goodbyes.
I felt iffy on the date but was still bummed to see she wasn’t interested in a second date.
My last few dates have gone similar, so I’m started to notice a trend. During all these dates I felt things were going well, similar to other dates I’ve had in the past that lead to an immediate lay. But at some point I fumble and I don’t see them again.
Thanks for reading. Going to try to keep posting journal entries to keep me focused.
Wasn’t really going to post much about dates I get from the dating apps, since I usually do pretty well in regards to those, but I’ve had a string of bad ones.
For context, I’ve been on about 50 first dates in the past two years, all from Bumble or Hinge. About 30% of them I either fuck or at least get their shirt off on the first date. About 41% of all the women I take their shirt off eventually, wither it be the second, third or whatever date.
Bur here’s where the bragging ends, because the last 7 dates haven’t lead to anything. Except one led to a second date. But all the women ended up not wanted to continue seeing each other.
Here’s how my last date went:
Went out for drinks on a Tuesday night. Off the bat I felt an almost surprised/disappointed look in her face? Almost like she thought I looked different than my photos. But I made sure I don’t look different then them so I don’t think that was it. I saw this a couple times during the night, but only at the beginning of the date. But it could just be a look of nervousness.
I have noticed (or thought I noticed) similar things on other dates, but then those dates ended up going home with me so maybe it’s just in my head. I’m leaning more to this, because I know sometimes I look too deep into things.
Anyways, I do some light teasing, a bit of qualifying (are you the kind of person that is X?), making her laugh, etc. I notice when I lean back she leans in, which I see as an IOI. I keep the conversation going, I make a mental note of topics/questions before the dates so all lulls in the conversation are quickly overwritten with the next questions.
The night goes on, and she agrees to go to another bar for a second drink. I had a venue in mind, but there ended up being a private party going on.
This is where I suggest wine back at my place, a line that either (almost) solidifies its going to be a great night OR I get a polite/sometimes not so polite decline. The line has worked so many unexpected times in the past that it’s a go-to, but now I’m thinking it’s too much of a Hail Mary and might be contributing to me getting such a high fail rate recently. I only go for this if I am noticing IOIs and they agreed to a second/third drink somewhere else, never if they want to call it a night or I feel things aren’t going well.
She says it’s tempting but politely declines. We end up searching for other venues on foot, and after about 10-15 minutes she says she’s actually tired and wants to call it a night. I offer to drive/walk her home (she lived close) but she declined. We call it a night and say our goodbyes.
I felt iffy on the date but was still bummed to see she wasn’t interested in a second date.
My last few dates have gone similar, so I’m started to notice a trend. During all these dates I felt things were going well, similar to other dates I’ve had in the past that lead to an immediate lay. But at some point I fumble and I don’t see them again.
Thanks for reading. Going to try to keep posting journal entries to keep me focused.
