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... they don't.
"Today I was at the bar, and I had seen the worst pickup artist in the world. He was old, his hair was gray, he was skinny. He has light watches in both his hand, and his face was about to cry. Later I saw him alone in the dance floor, and he was dancing, and everyone was looking at him."
- at 2 am, when I was in the bed.
I didn't remember him at all until 4 hours later.
This wasn't just about approach anxiety, it was about comfort zone. I used to have approach anxiety for: a single girl, a single girl with people nearby, groups of girls, mixed group, phone number, teasing, making out, and most recently, kissing on a date.
I guarantee you. You can never be as bad as that guy. Whatever comfort zone I was about to break, it cannot be as bad as that guy.
Everyone forgets about him. The ones that will gossip about him (1%), they don't deserve your attention anyway.
So break your comfort zone. Really break it. Because no one will remember you anyway. The girl will forget you anyway.
But if you push it, she will remember you. In a good way or bad way. Bad publicity is better than no publicity.
"Today I was at the bar, and I had seen the worst pickup artist in the world. He was old, his hair was gray, he was skinny. He has light watches in both his hand, and his face was about to cry. Later I saw him alone in the dance floor, and he was dancing, and everyone was looking at him."
- at 2 am, when I was in the bed.
I didn't remember him at all until 4 hours later.
This wasn't just about approach anxiety, it was about comfort zone. I used to have approach anxiety for: a single girl, a single girl with people nearby, groups of girls, mixed group, phone number, teasing, making out, and most recently, kissing on a date.
I guarantee you. You can never be as bad as that guy. Whatever comfort zone I was about to break, it cannot be as bad as that guy.
Everyone forgets about him. The ones that will gossip about him (1%), they don't deserve your attention anyway.
So break your comfort zone. Really break it. Because no one will remember you anyway. The girl will forget you anyway.
But if you push it, she will remember you. In a good way or bad way. Bad publicity is better than no publicity.