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So in my case, after a bit of back and forth it went like![]()
Tactics Tuesdays: When She Texts You "We'll See"
When she texts you “maybe” or “we’ll see”, what does it mean? Why do women text this? There are ways to reduce this happening – as well as ways to deal with it once it happens. A reader named Daniel writes in: “Hey guys, I have been gaming for a few years now, and I notice a theme. When I ask a...www.girlschase.com
When a girl texts you “we’ll see”, she has presumed higher value over you. You don’t text “maybe” or “we’ll see” unless the other person you’re messaging is clearly lower value than you are.
With “I’ll let you know”, it’s rather context dependent. Here’s an example of when it wouldn’t be her presuming higher value:
^ so like that, no problem. She’s not presuming higher value over you; she’s cooperative here and responding like an equal (or lower).You: blah blah blah We should grab that bite. What’s your schedule like this week or next?
Her: It’s still very up in the air. I might be free on Friday or I might not be free until next week. I won’t know until Wednesday at least.
You: Cool, no worries. Just let me know once you know and we’ll set a date and time.
Her: Okay! I’ll let you know!
Now here’s an example where she does presume higher value:
^ in this case, she presumes higher value. Which is simply another way of saying “You want me more than I want you.” Yech. Why do women do this?You: blah blah blah We should grab that bite. What’s your schedule like this week or next?
Her: It’s too early in the week to have a schedule yet. I’ll let you know!
There are three factors that feed into a reception like this:
In particular, we want to pay attention to your value and your attainability in these situations. That’s because if at any point she gets the idea you are lower value than she is, you’ll start to get “maybe” and “we’ll see” messages.
- The first impression you made on her when you took her contact info
- Any interaction she’s had with you between then and the date request
- How you frame your date request
Yet attainability can produce these messages for you too. If you send her into auto-rejection, your value becomes invisible to her, and you are, for all intents and purposes, now ‘low value’ as well (even if you’re very high value). Imagine your favorite movie star pissing off some girl on the street by acting too haughty... and him then asking her out and getting a “We’ll see”, because she now values giving him his comeuppance more than she values whatever thrills, status, or gene package he might provide her. His value’s still there, but thanks to his haughtiness she can’t access it.
Her: "Let's hang out soon~"
Me: "Yess let's do it! What's ur sched like?"
Her: I'll lyk by Wednesday (this was on Sunday) cause I'm figuring out plans rn.
In this context does this sound like she's taking 'charge' by saying 'ill lyk'?