I'm having a hard time having faith in cold approaching.

[Shake&Bake]

I'm having a really difficult time cold approaching. The women never hook and I have a hard time finding out what to say. I always feel like I'm gonna be a nuisance everytime I go out.

It feels like cold approaches only works with the guys on video who are doing infield footage. I've seen guys who were not as great dressers as me do it on YouTube so idk what it is...maybe they are fake ....


I feel like it's totally pointless unless I'm highly attractive and rich. I always contemplate giving up seduction and just getting women the old fashion way. Just getting rich and usi g money to pay for bootcampa and workouts and cool clothes

 

[Cody Lyans]

This is normal. It is part of seduction called mentality. Initially the doubts and I HAVE TO TURN BACK feels are pretty extreme. For example when I started, I was literally shaking and paralyzed when it came to stepping out of the car to go and Lone wolf a club the first time.
You have to win these seemingly insignificant inner battles, so you build good thought habits.
Be diligent about flipping these battles in your head, and take productive trains of thought.

Example, I started thinking about how I could not do it when I started, and I responded to myself "goddammit man, if you pussy out now all you will do is sit at home and hope, WHEN are you going to step up if not now" I hated to admit the cold hard truth, but I just had to get over it.

Don't measure yourself against others at first. Focus on ONE THING AT A TIME. Set small challenges and beat them, easy stuff that takes guts to do like approach when you are scared, talk and lead convo while you feel like the weak one, flirt when you get decent responses and buying signs like neutral or positive girls

 

[DarkKnight]

Shake & Bake try to start with sniper game. Girls who give you signals or signs of interest. When you get used to opening them , cold approaching regular girls gets a lot more easy. If you are going to open girls who give no signals at all when you are not used to the inner battles Cody mentions above, rejections can get a little traumatic.