I'm Hitting a Wall with Availability

[metalbird]

Let me start this one off with a text I just got from a smoking hot girl who I met at coffeeshop a few weeks ago, who regretfully declined my offer of a date due to... that's right, having a boyfriend.

Hey Daniel-- this is Christian.. Blonde pianist from Agora. I know it's been awhile, but I'm sitting in Agora (doing work, ha), and remembered that I've been meaning to say thanks for coming and talking to me that night. Not many people have that kind of courage, nor do they figure out how to have deep, intelligent conversation, much less learn to relate to someone so quickly. It was really impressive. And you seem like a pretty genuine guy. I'm sorry to have had to drop the ball, especially so late into the conversation, but I really was enjoying your company. I wish you all the best

In a way, it's a sign of progress; without a doubt, the biggest thing holding me back from dating the type of women that I want is not being attractive enough, it's lack of availability on the woman's part. My standards have gotten high enough that the type of women I'm now targeting is rarely, perhaps never, "available" in the traditional sense.

"Omega" style cold-approach game works well for low-to-mid level women, but once you get to targeting the women in really high demand, those paradigms break down. It makes sense, when you think about the evolutionary background; the high-value women of any given tribe would inevitably be locked down by the traditional alphas of the community and barred from access by wandering loner types.

I know I could do just fine with these women if I could get a decent shot at any. Bear in mind that I value loyalty as an attractive trait in my partners, so I'm not looking to flip pancakes to get them. Is social game the only answer? Any tips from you guys who have figured out how to get around the availability barrier?

Thanks,

Daniel

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

Social circle will get you around more of them, but won't make them any more available. It can reduce the "wall" that they feel about guys, and you'll have to be less inherently "hot" to get high caliber women through social circle, but they'll also slow-game you more.

Day game is your best bet, honestly. And no one said you can't do both. But yeah, lots of high caliber women are usually in relationships - they're hot, everyone wants to date them.

For fucking them, cold approach is always the best (look up "Sigma-Male," it might cut some of the connotations that go with your designation of "Omega male"; also, don't let evolutionary biology dictate too much of your thinking. It's nice and fits well into our theories, but many of the world's greatest lovers, from Casanova to Picasso, were not exactly your standard "Alpha Males"; women love sexy loners).

Social circle will also help put you in touch with them. Nothing in and of itself however is going to make these women more available. Either they have boyfriends or they don't. Only increasing your exposure to them is going to increase the probability of one of them being single!

Approach more or get a bigger social circle Or both!

Hector