Hey all!
TLDR; Any thoughts on developing imagination and masturbating to the thought of bedding these girls I approach?
On a roll with 6 contacts from my gym in the last 10 days. Losing my mind on the conversion side, though. All have agreed to hangout and give me their contact, then nothing happens. Obviously I have work to do, but the point of this post is I've been trying to go nofap and set real sex as my only "out". Even though my oomph to approach is there, I don't have any added edginess in the conversation (am generally teasing and curious by default), so it makes me wonder if letting things build up is either not helping or potentially causing issues. When I'm not at the gym, my exposure is almost non-existent and living at home out in a suburb means daygame isn't really a thing (literally just highschoolers/older ladies in malls/etc) and night game feels like an uphill battle given I can't bring girls back to my place (the plan for the gym girl dates is do it in the car :/ ).
Obviously porn can be very detrimental (found a way to leverage pov stuff during my relationship though), but feeling riled up all the time with not many options to divert the energy (still trying to get a job) and being stonewalled at the texting stage feels bad. Any thoughts on developing imagination and masturbating to the thought of bedding these girls I approach? Feel like building sexual visualization would be very useful to employ in the field, but that may just be my horniness talking. Let me know if I'm just coping and trying to talk my way out of this or if there's substance here!
Thanks all!
TLDR; Any thoughts on developing imagination and masturbating to the thought of bedding these girls I approach?
On a roll with 6 contacts from my gym in the last 10 days. Losing my mind on the conversion side, though. All have agreed to hangout and give me their contact, then nothing happens. Obviously I have work to do, but the point of this post is I've been trying to go nofap and set real sex as my only "out". Even though my oomph to approach is there, I don't have any added edginess in the conversation (am generally teasing and curious by default), so it makes me wonder if letting things build up is either not helping or potentially causing issues. When I'm not at the gym, my exposure is almost non-existent and living at home out in a suburb means daygame isn't really a thing (literally just highschoolers/older ladies in malls/etc) and night game feels like an uphill battle given I can't bring girls back to my place (the plan for the gym girl dates is do it in the car :/ ).
Obviously porn can be very detrimental (found a way to leverage pov stuff during my relationship though), but feeling riled up all the time with not many options to divert the energy (still trying to get a job) and being stonewalled at the texting stage feels bad. Any thoughts on developing imagination and masturbating to the thought of bedding these girls I approach? Feel like building sexual visualization would be very useful to employ in the field, but that may just be my horniness talking. Let me know if I'm just coping and trying to talk my way out of this or if there's substance here!
Thanks all!
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