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Hi everyone. I've just started Uni in the UK, about a month in now, and to be honest it’s really not going as good as I'd hoped.
I've made some decent friends(Just people that know each other within my accommodation, kind of split between more popular and less into 2 groups) however I feel like all I can do is small talk.
While I have hung out with the more popular group quite a few times I feel as though I really don’t bring any value, I just make basic small talk and the night would be the same without me there. A few times I have joined them without any invite and they don’t mind, but most the time I'm not actually being invited to what’s going on. I know a lot of people in my accommodation now and with all of them I get the same feeling, I come off as someone who is decent to talk to but not a really interesting guy to invite to things, I’m not making any deeper connections, and they don’t even need to be that deep at the moment, just enough to go out with them.
I feel as though I am really struggling socially due to the fact that before coming to Uni I had the same set of friends for 7+ years and having a girlfriend now for over a year. What I'm asking is if anyone could give some advice (either in some kind of macro sense like trying to meet different people or maybe more conversation help to be more interesting), encouragement or really just set me in the right direction, my aim right now is just to be seen as higher value and be much more well-known and sociable, I'm not that worried about girls for now.
What Should my method be to improve my situation? How should I change my conversations to go from a decent guy to go out with to "Yeah of course we invite him".
I've been a long time lurker of Girls Chase, reading it all the time during school and not putting any of it into effect as I never left my comfort zone of my very close social circle. I feel now is perhaps my first true test of character I've had in a very long time and so far it seems I’m not making the cut.
I've made some decent friends(Just people that know each other within my accommodation, kind of split between more popular and less into 2 groups) however I feel like all I can do is small talk.
While I have hung out with the more popular group quite a few times I feel as though I really don’t bring any value, I just make basic small talk and the night would be the same without me there. A few times I have joined them without any invite and they don’t mind, but most the time I'm not actually being invited to what’s going on. I know a lot of people in my accommodation now and with all of them I get the same feeling, I come off as someone who is decent to talk to but not a really interesting guy to invite to things, I’m not making any deeper connections, and they don’t even need to be that deep at the moment, just enough to go out with them.
I feel as though I am really struggling socially due to the fact that before coming to Uni I had the same set of friends for 7+ years and having a girlfriend now for over a year. What I'm asking is if anyone could give some advice (either in some kind of macro sense like trying to meet different people or maybe more conversation help to be more interesting), encouragement or really just set me in the right direction, my aim right now is just to be seen as higher value and be much more well-known and sociable, I'm not that worried about girls for now.
What Should my method be to improve my situation? How should I change my conversations to go from a decent guy to go out with to "Yeah of course we invite him".
I've been a long time lurker of Girls Chase, reading it all the time during school and not putting any of it into effect as I never left my comfort zone of my very close social circle. I feel now is perhaps my first true test of character I've had in a very long time and so far it seems I’m not making the cut.
