In over my head lol

[biggie_s]

Well ill attempt to be brief. Worked with this girl 5 years basically nothing other than brief friendliness. My boss teamed us up so we started interacting and there was definitely a lot flirting and good vibes. I needed some documents so she gave her number no biggie. But two days later she texted non work related stuff.
So we just started talking a lot after that. I didn't really put much into cause she has a long term boyfriend. Plus we didn't really work together after that. Well since then I've worked out a lot and got into pretty decent shape and a couple weeks ago we started working together again. Except this time it's waaay different. She's touching me a lot and putting her breasts like right on top of me. She's rather well blessed.
Well she told me does does zumba and she knows I'm really into fitness I said I would go with her if she went to hot yoga with me. Well we've been going together for about a month now. We always talk a lother after. She tells me she doesn't like her bf he's controlling doesnt pay attention is terribly out of shape won't shave. I am always clean shaven BTW.
So it's like I'm kinda stuck at this point now. I'm not sure if I'm just like a friend? We get very close and I'll touch her a lot but I'm not sure how to make the next move. I've backed off recently from reading stuff on this site. I did not go to zumba a few times and she's been saying she misses me and it's not the same without me. I could tell it gave me some cred to be like yea I'm not going all the time same with texting I was always responding but now it's harder to get my attention.
So overall I can tell something is up. She clearly is either into flirting a lot, wants to leave her boyfriend or even just hook up. I'm cool with either really. She is pretty damn hot like the hottest girl at work and my buddies are astonished at how much attention she gives me. How should I proceed?

 

[biggie_s]

Ok so here's an update. We kept texting and she was asking if she talked to much. I could tell she is really valuing my opinion on things. Of course I say no I enjoy talking to you. We had done hot yoga that night together so I decided to push my luck. I tell her she was the most attractive woman in the class by far. She says really I don't see it. I respond Jessica you're gorgeous. She sends me smiley face and says she can't stop smiling.

Today she invites me to a zumba class. This is Saturday we never talk or hang out on weekends. Just during the work week. I see this as opportunity. We do the class. She's very happy and we have a lot of close contact during and after.

I walk her to her car she gets she wants to show me something she mentioned before her rear mirror stuff. I lean in put my arm around her. She's comfortable we talk briefly. We're very close she says bye and kinda leans in to kiss my cheek I reposition and kiss her on the mouth she reciprocatesaid. We make out for a minute. She says you're gping to get me on trouble. I say I couldn't resist any longer. She leaves. She had an appointment to get sout I didn't really try to keep her longer.

I could really use some advice now. She's into somewhat at least cause she kissed back but this pesky boyfriend thing she doesn't really bring it up but eventually I'll have to deal with it and I'll have to be smooth. I also dont know if I should text her back now or wait.

 

[Improvementalist]

Hi biggie_s.

You're basically her second plan if she some day, sometime in the future just happens to break up with her boyfriend.

Are you going to wait for her to do, or not to do that? Remember your abundance, there's plenty of other women out there just as stunning as her.

I'm myself in a similar situation like you at the moment. There's a girl who's chasing me hard and it's obvious even to a rookie like me that this girl is interested and not just in a friendly way. I spent one evening with her during an event and the tension was just.. Oh man. I found it really hard not to kiss her as she was glancing at my lips every now and then while we talked. I had also a hard time in not putting her to a pedestal, otherwise it would be me who's chasing her.

But I succeeded in both of these - I didn't kiss her and she was probably left wanting for more. If this keeps going on I might get auto-rejected in the future but hey, that's not my problem. Remembering the abundance.

 

[biggie_s]

Damn. You couldn't be more right. We were texting and I said some fairly sexually suggestive stuff and she did not like it at all. She said don't forget I have a boyfriend. Pretty bummed because we were making such a great connection. I was being very sweet and she accepted all my advances and even kissed me but that comment really turned her off. Wish I could take it back. I think it made me look sleazy.

 

[Improvementalist]

Damn. You couldn't be more right. We were texting and I said some fairly sexually suggestive stuff and she did not like it at all. She said don't forget I have a boyfriend. Pretty bummed because we were making such a great connection. I was being very sweet and she accepted all my advances and even kissed me but that comment really turned her off. Wish I could take it back. I think it made me look sleazy.

biggie_s, you're putting her to a pedestal. Remember what I said about abundance?

It's really easy to fall into the false belief that this girl will be your only chance of getting a girl who understands you, who likes you, wants you. Not to mention the fact that we humans, men and women, often like to get things that are unavailable to us.

There are other women out there. You just need to let go of this person (or at least step away from her life and step back in if she one day ends up single.) and open yourself to the environment, the women around you.