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At the time, I didn't know any of this stuff, so was mostly going in blind.
1. Would you consider this a relationship? She had a BF at the time, but I charmed her into being attracted to me. We were lovers at first...but ended up seeing each other multiple times a week (in fact, frequently staying at her place while the BF was traveling) for 6 months. In our first date, she paid for everything...and we had sex multiple times. I kind of freaked out too because in the middle of the night, she literally sat of top of my dick...UNPROTECTED. I calmed down later because she was a really innocent girl so I wasn't afraid of STDs...and she was religiously on the pill and knew I did not want kids AT ALL. For the rest of our "relationship," she paid for everything...dates, food, entertainment. I think I paid a date once. Was this a relationship even though she had another BF at the time? Or were we just lovers for 6 months? She broke up with me once, but then came back (by me not chasing after her). Then she finally broke up with me for good after walking in on me after just finishing sex with another girl. I reminded her throughout our relationship that I wanted it to be open. I guess she was too innocent to believe me?
2. When and how often should I hold a woman's hand/hold her waist? This sort of stuff isn't intuitive for me. I ended up doing it all the time with this girl whenever I could. I think it came across as needy/insecure. Not sure.
3. This same girl always told me she loved me. When she asked if I did, I told her I did. That was probably a mistake since I didn't really. But I probably told her I did because I confused infatuation with love. But even if I do love a woman, is it wise to tell her I love her straight-up? I was just watching Transformers 2, and they made a big deal about who would say "I love you" first, and quite frankly, I thought was the dumbest thing ever.
1. Would you consider this a relationship? She had a BF at the time, but I charmed her into being attracted to me. We were lovers at first...but ended up seeing each other multiple times a week (in fact, frequently staying at her place while the BF was traveling) for 6 months. In our first date, she paid for everything...and we had sex multiple times. I kind of freaked out too because in the middle of the night, she literally sat of top of my dick...UNPROTECTED. I calmed down later because she was a really innocent girl so I wasn't afraid of STDs...and she was religiously on the pill and knew I did not want kids AT ALL. For the rest of our "relationship," she paid for everything...dates, food, entertainment. I think I paid a date once. Was this a relationship even though she had another BF at the time? Or were we just lovers for 6 months? She broke up with me once, but then came back (by me not chasing after her). Then she finally broke up with me for good after walking in on me after just finishing sex with another girl. I reminded her throughout our relationship that I wanted it to be open. I guess she was too innocent to believe me?
2. When and how often should I hold a woman's hand/hold her waist? This sort of stuff isn't intuitive for me. I ended up doing it all the time with this girl whenever I could. I think it came across as needy/insecure. Not sure.
3. This same girl always told me she loved me. When she asked if I did, I told her I did. That was probably a mistake since I didn't really. But I probably told her I did because I confused infatuation with love. But even if I do love a woman, is it wise to tell her I love her straight-up? I was just watching Transformers 2, and they made a big deal about who would say "I love you" first, and quite frankly, I thought was the dumbest thing ever.
