Initiating sex talk

[Man-O]

Rarely have I opened a topic of sex or the like myself in conversations since I find it hard to make it seem natural to talk about in my current conversations.

How do you people start the topic of sex and your views of sex in a conversation? I seem to have trouble transitioning into this sexual liberation stuff if the girls aren't opening some kind of sex topic up first.

Thanks in regards

 

[NarrowJ]

Hey, this is one of my favorite subjects

There are some pre-requisites to this that you'll want to make sure and have handled first:

• She must be at least somewhat attracted to you. She doesn’t have to be ready to jump you yet, but getting her laughing and having fun is a good place to start.
• Don't wait too long. Frames are set from the gate. In many situations it helps to introduce a sexual element to the conversation in the first 5 – 10 minutes. Waiting until after a couple of hours to turn the conversation sexual can create some problems because it doesn’t fit with who you have been in the conversation: a comfortable and friendly non-sexual guy to talk to.
• You must be comfortable with your sexuality and with expressing that you are sexually attracted to a woman.
• You have to be in the moment, not in your head. In other words, don't worry about her responding badly and she probably won't.

Then once you have all that squared away, there's a whole bunch of ways to skin this kitty.

Tell a story about you or something a “crazy friend” did: "I’ve got this really crazy story, but I think it might be too crazy for you, you look kind of innocent." If she says try me, I’m up for a good story, then you can go ahead. This usually prompts her to tell a story of her own or get turned on listening to your story. If you do get her telling you a story, then go ahead and ask her what she likes, if she enjoys giving head, etcetera.

Deliberately misunderstand something she says or turn her innocent comments into something sexual: “What did you say about that duck/ puck etc.?” You: “What, do I want to fuck? Wow you’re pretty forward, I appreciate the offer.” Or maybe: "I’m hot (it’s hot in here) You: “I’m glad I make you hot, but that’s what they all say, but you have no idea how hot it will be when I’m …."

Reverse the traditional gender role and assume that she is the sexual aggressor in a humorous way. This is funny because most women are used to assuming the role of being the one that is pursued for sex: “I want a woman that’s going to get to know me first and not just use me for sex.”

Any double-meanings or entendres. I'll do these super playfully, maybe you grab one of her gloves and try to put it on: “OMG this is so tight, I'm going to need some lube. I know you carry some in your purse."

It's really all about delivering it confidently and playfully, much more so than what you actually say to her.


J.J.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Here's a link to probably one of the best conversational pieces I've ever read in the FR/LR section https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=2913 that describes a sex talk in great detail.

It's written by GC writer Alek Rolstad. He has a couple posts about sex talk that I highly recommend reading as well.

To take this thread on a bit of a tangent...

NarrowJ I about bust out laughing reading your new signature "You say no to ratchet pussy, NarrowJ can't!"

HAhaa.

Take notes gents!

The Narrow be a Original Gangster like Juicy excpet that the Narrow ain't poppin bands to make some ho dance... she just skips that and goes straight to fucking.

 

[NarrowJ]

Hahaha I thought you guys might enjoy that

J.J.

 

[Man-O]

Cool, so if noticing something I find sexy on her or in the venue I could relate or make it up to some sex experience or something kinky I've seen or heard and tell her about it playfully before diving deeper into sex talk?

Or

You begin looking away snickering as she mentions a story, making her ask why and you say, she probably don't want to hear it because it's too much/kinky/too naughty and her story reminded you of that.

I guess it's time to read some books about sex.
What recommendations you people have on books, movies and so on? 50SoG is a start. Secret gardens nancy friday?
Also something shorter than a book but containing naughty stuff girls can highly relate to would be just as beneficial.

But man I gotta get a lot more hardcore in bed to live up to those criterias I set up through sex-talking

And thanks for the helpful advice.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Lol sir J of the Narrow

@ Man-O

When you do start talking about sex make sure you deep dive her to get her talking about her personal thoughts and experiences. If you just stay surface level and talk about "yes I think this about BDSM" but don't actually get her talking about her personal experience then it's just another conversation topic. If you get her to talk about "yeah I think it's so hot getting tied up and spanked! My favorite is handcuffs and blindfolds because I don't know what's about to happen next" then she's thinking about getting fucked while talking to you and if you're a sexy man this will turn her on.

 

[Richard]

Man-O,

I used to have the same problem with women. It felt creepy and perverted to really tell a girl and talk to her about sex because I felt like she knew what my intentions were and she would immediately flip the fuck out and reject me. But, that mindset that I used to have, and the one you probably have now is both disrespectful/unnatural/ and dishonest. It's disrespectful/unnatural, and dishonest because you're hiding your intentions from that girl and you're not allowing her to be the woman that she really is!

I'm highly regarded as one of the most direct and sexual guys on this site. In every LR or FR you will see that I play no games about my intentions and that creates a high risk - high reward game. I get blown out of the water and I seduce women too. I didn't get to this point until I started to be sexual with women and I found out that women absolutely love you for it - it paints you as a masculine man who is used to being sexual, and used to persisting in getting what he wants. Being clear about a goal and actively pursuing it is attractive in all fields; especially seduction.

Now, as for actually being sexual; it's all about your tone of voice and body composition. You absolutely need to feel relaxed and comfortable talking about sex like it's no big deal because it really is no big deal. When you show a woman that you're comfortable she picks up on that energy and reciprocates pretty easily.