Instagram Girl in Social Circle

[Henry]

Howzit all, hope you're doing well. So there's this girl in our social circle that broke up with her boyfriend in the last week. She is hot af, that typical instagram girl with thousands of followers. I know her pretty well - we have good banter with one another and there's been a few sexually tense moments we've had in the past. Obviously I'd like to make a move on her, but I know she's into guys that doesn't show any interest in her. Any tips or ideas on how to move things forward without showing interest? I have about a month before our summer holidays start and won't see her then for about 2 months before university starts again. I live in a mixed residence where she also has a room but she's currently staying at her parents home about an hour's drive from here. Due to covid all of our exams are online so she has no reason to come back to campus/residence this year.

 

[DarkKnight]

Her being an instagram girl is totally irrelevant in real life. I know these insta chicks as well.. in real life not so super impressive

How long have you known her and how deep are you in the friendzone? Be honest now..

"but I know she's into guys that doesn't show any interest in her" -> im gonna be skeptic here.. she probably is more interested in guys who are not in her cage aka friendzone. Not guys who dont show any interest at all.

This sounds like an one itis/friendzone post. I would just make a move if you dont mind social repucursions and then read this:

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[Henry]

Haha no I can say with honesty it's not a oneitis case. I'm in an area with very limited access to women, so unfortunately there's no room to fuck up at all with the few that you meet. Hence I'm trying to get this right from the start, especially because she's hotter than the majority of the girls I've met in the last few months. I'm not scared of fucking it up, I'd say more perfectionistic about it. Also I've never actually tried the whole social circle dating thing.
Friendzone wise I'm not sure - I've made it clear in the past that she's not my friend and she's never treated me as a bestie/brother. She hasn't made the effort to contact or see me now or in the past however so I'd guess I fall in the middle between friendzoned and viewed as a lover.
I'm guessing your advice would be to just treat her as a regular social circle case?

 

[DarkKnight]

I am sure one of the other guys like @Velasco would give much more sophisticated advice..

But going off on your situation I wouldnt treat her as a scarce resource, although based on your telling she actually is but I would still move fast. Then again I always focus on multiple girls and that alleviates a lot of worry about one single girl.. unless the mandatory once in a 3/4 years one itis that pops up.

Just take action.. in a socially calibrated way. Dont treat her as scarce or pedestalize her as "hot" instagram girl.

I have to say though.. after knowing a girl for 2 months or so and nothing happening I usually lose enthousiasm... especially if there was plenty of interaction in between.

 

[Henry]

I agree with you not treating her as a scarce resource. I guess despite the unusual situation the basics like having an abundance mentality and following regular social circle game still hold true.
Thanks mate

 

[DarkKnight]

Its not easy.. especially with the covid restrictions.. just the other day Chase posted something about girls looking at our behaviors as if we behave like guys who get with girls like her... in the end its about the frame I suppose.

 

[Skjöldr]

Its not easy.. especially with the covid restrictions.. just the other day Chase posted something about girls looking at our behaviors as if we behave like guys who get with girls like her... in the end its about the frame I suppose.

link to article?

 

[DarkKnight]

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[Toby2030]

I have good experience with these type of girls. Never compliment her on her looks. By not doing that, you are different from 95% of all guys she's around in general. Only qualify on behaviour and opinions.

As mentioned, keep the ambiguity in the interaction. Use sex talk to up compliance and make her chase you, and evaluate her throughout the interaction.

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