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Okay so I approached so many girls today that I lost count and I've had so many conversations that I may not be able to remember everything.
Approach anxiety is almost non existent for me but I'm still tryi g to master steering towards a close.
A lot of the girls I approached today were girls I knew from various places. So I kept running into old attempts and school crushes. (you see everyone when you work at the mall)
First before I get into this post(which is probably going to be very long)
I wanted to post this link to a video that my YouTube account recommended me to. I'm glad it did because it really helped me today. It's almost 30 minutes long, just a warning: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGH9JemcZOg
I watched it twice last night. The second time I tried to break down what Will Beck was doing. There's no post on escalation while on the date so I didn't know what was okay. I made up a process for myself afterwards just in case I have an instant date.
The "crazy" girl I met last week who likes to talk about her problems comes back to the mall everyday and sees me and my co-workers. Over the past few days I've tried to escalate with her. At one point I tried to kiss her but she moved her face to the side and I kissed her cheek. She still continues to act aloof and "play fight" with me and overall be off and on.
My co-workers told me that they fou d out that is bi-polar. They also say she is "easy" and there should be no excuse that I shouldn't be able to pull her in a back room and fuck her. I still think she is also a pathological liar.
Anyway, she kept stopping by the kiosk, stay for a few seconds to say a few things then she'd walk away.
It's been this way since I met her. When I try to get her to sit down with me she always gives me the excuse that she can't stay in one place too long because it bothers her. Whatever. >.>
I was hungry and ready for a break so the next time she stopped by I told her: "I'm going on break..come on...let's go get some food"
Her: "where are we going?"
Me: burger king.
Her: there's no burger king in the food court.
Me: yea..there's one right across the street. Come on.
She walked with me there.
On the way there we didn't conversate much she just played her music out loud on her phone and we both sang along to it.
There was a little kino along the way of us play fighting. The whole pretending to fight thing is getting annoying, honestly. She's been in the streets too long and can't flirt like a normal person. She keeps telling me to actually throw a punch at her and I can't tell if she's joking or really wants to fight. Then she calls me a pussy when I don't.
Either way, the vibe is still good despite her being so aloof. I can get her to comply and stop walking when I need her to and I command her.
We walk into burger king, order our food. And I tell her: let's sit at a table outside.
She doesn't want to and makes some excuse for it. I start walking outside but she plops down at a table with a window view of outside. >.> soi sit inside anyway because the seat is better and is a two seater.
She's telling me how she hasn't eaten in two days and she's starving. Then I go into deep diving her to see where she is trying to go in life and how she plans to get out of the situation she's in. I try my best to encourage her but there's not much to say. The only advice I can think of is for her to get a job and I suggest her working at the kiosk I work at once I leave.
We keep having moments of silence and I let the conversation fade at points then we'd look into each others eyes and I'd notice her look at my lips. Then back to my eyes. She said: I can't believe I came her with you...what would my boyfriend think?
Me: it's no big deal..we're just spending time at burger king, nothing special. Not like anythings gonna happen
Her: yea, I guess
Me: I thought you said you didn't have a boyfriend. Remember that last time, when you told me you were just lying about the boyfriend thing just to see my reaction?
Her: we'll I lied about that too..I do have a boyfriend.
Me: then why won't you look me in the eyes whenever you say you do.
She looks me in the eyes
Her: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND.
Me: you're lying.
Her: no, I'm serious.
Me: I don't believe you
She had to be lying because that whole time we were p,suing with each others hands and she didn't care. Then when I started touching her leg underneath the table she brought up the boyfriend thing.
We finished eating and conversating and got up too leave. She threw both of our trash away and left her drink on the table
I grabbed drink and walked away with it then she tried taking it back from me. I held it from her reach and then made her get closer to me. Right when I let her have it I went for the kiss..but again it was on the cheek.
After that, on the walk back she didn't give me another chance. She walked far away from me then dissappeared afterwards.
I believe that if she was a normal un-awkward girl, I would've gotten further.
A little earlier that day, I talked to another one of the girls that worked in journey's.
When I first introduced myself to her she didn't seem interested...but over the last week and the weekend she's been seeing me cold approaching girls in the mall and now I think preselection is kicking in. She's looking at me in a new light with these lusty eyes. I love it. She's a really cute short blonde girl with a quirky personality.
She walked up to me "dancing" to the music playing overhead in the mall.
I started bobbing to the rhythm as well then reached out my hand and she took it.
Then I spun her around and pulled her in to hug me.
Me: I forgot your name...what was it?
Her: I forgot my name too.
Me: seriously what is it?
She gave me a smile and walked back into journeys
Is spent moments when she didn't have customers and I wasn't talking to people trying to guess her name. I got her to give me the first three letters but she wouldn't tell me the rest.
C-h-e.
She told me the C had an S sound.
Eventually I found out her name was Cheyenne and I tried getting to know her and figuring out when she had a break or free time to which she told me she doesn't have breaks and on her off days she volunteers at an animal hospital.
Since I couldn't move towards anything, me and her just flirted the rest of the day when we had the chance.
I too tired to type out the many other interactions so I'll do it tomorrow.
I ran into a girl I had a crush on last semester and she was with her boyfriend. I was all over her and he was there watching unable to do anything. I got him to take a picture of me and her with my arm around her. The story is kind of funny so I really want to post it tomorrow.
Approach anxiety is almost non existent for me but I'm still tryi g to master steering towards a close.
A lot of the girls I approached today were girls I knew from various places. So I kept running into old attempts and school crushes. (you see everyone when you work at the mall)
First before I get into this post(which is probably going to be very long)
I wanted to post this link to a video that my YouTube account recommended me to. I'm glad it did because it really helped me today. It's almost 30 minutes long, just a warning: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xGH9JemcZOg
I watched it twice last night. The second time I tried to break down what Will Beck was doing. There's no post on escalation while on the date so I didn't know what was okay. I made up a process for myself afterwards just in case I have an instant date.
The "crazy" girl I met last week who likes to talk about her problems comes back to the mall everyday and sees me and my co-workers. Over the past few days I've tried to escalate with her. At one point I tried to kiss her but she moved her face to the side and I kissed her cheek. She still continues to act aloof and "play fight" with me and overall be off and on.
My co-workers told me that they fou d out that is bi-polar. They also say she is "easy" and there should be no excuse that I shouldn't be able to pull her in a back room and fuck her. I still think she is also a pathological liar.
Anyway, she kept stopping by the kiosk, stay for a few seconds to say a few things then she'd walk away.
It's been this way since I met her. When I try to get her to sit down with me she always gives me the excuse that she can't stay in one place too long because it bothers her. Whatever. >.>
I was hungry and ready for a break so the next time she stopped by I told her: "I'm going on break..come on...let's go get some food"
Her: "where are we going?"
Me: burger king.
Her: there's no burger king in the food court.
Me: yea..there's one right across the street. Come on.
She walked with me there.
On the way there we didn't conversate much she just played her music out loud on her phone and we both sang along to it.
There was a little kino along the way of us play fighting. The whole pretending to fight thing is getting annoying, honestly. She's been in the streets too long and can't flirt like a normal person. She keeps telling me to actually throw a punch at her and I can't tell if she's joking or really wants to fight. Then she calls me a pussy when I don't.
Either way, the vibe is still good despite her being so aloof. I can get her to comply and stop walking when I need her to and I command her.
We walk into burger king, order our food. And I tell her: let's sit at a table outside.
She doesn't want to and makes some excuse for it. I start walking outside but she plops down at a table with a window view of outside. >.> soi sit inside anyway because the seat is better and is a two seater.
She's telling me how she hasn't eaten in two days and she's starving. Then I go into deep diving her to see where she is trying to go in life and how she plans to get out of the situation she's in. I try my best to encourage her but there's not much to say. The only advice I can think of is for her to get a job and I suggest her working at the kiosk I work at once I leave.
We keep having moments of silence and I let the conversation fade at points then we'd look into each others eyes and I'd notice her look at my lips. Then back to my eyes. She said: I can't believe I came her with you...what would my boyfriend think?
Me: it's no big deal..we're just spending time at burger king, nothing special. Not like anythings gonna happen
Her: yea, I guess
Me: I thought you said you didn't have a boyfriend. Remember that last time, when you told me you were just lying about the boyfriend thing just to see my reaction?
Her: we'll I lied about that too..I do have a boyfriend.
Me: then why won't you look me in the eyes whenever you say you do.
She looks me in the eyes
Her: I HAVE A BOYFRIEND.
Me: you're lying.
Her: no, I'm serious.
Me: I don't believe you
She had to be lying because that whole time we were p,suing with each others hands and she didn't care. Then when I started touching her leg underneath the table she brought up the boyfriend thing.
We finished eating and conversating and got up too leave. She threw both of our trash away and left her drink on the table
I grabbed drink and walked away with it then she tried taking it back from me. I held it from her reach and then made her get closer to me. Right when I let her have it I went for the kiss..but again it was on the cheek.
After that, on the walk back she didn't give me another chance. She walked far away from me then dissappeared afterwards.
I believe that if she was a normal un-awkward girl, I would've gotten further.
A little earlier that day, I talked to another one of the girls that worked in journey's.
When I first introduced myself to her she didn't seem interested...but over the last week and the weekend she's been seeing me cold approaching girls in the mall and now I think preselection is kicking in. She's looking at me in a new light with these lusty eyes. I love it. She's a really cute short blonde girl with a quirky personality.
She walked up to me "dancing" to the music playing overhead in the mall.
I started bobbing to the rhythm as well then reached out my hand and she took it.
Then I spun her around and pulled her in to hug me.
Me: I forgot your name...what was it?
Her: I forgot my name too.
Me: seriously what is it?
She gave me a smile and walked back into journeys
Is spent moments when she didn't have customers and I wasn't talking to people trying to guess her name. I got her to give me the first three letters but she wouldn't tell me the rest.
C-h-e.
She told me the C had an S sound.
Eventually I found out her name was Cheyenne and I tried getting to know her and figuring out when she had a break or free time to which she told me she doesn't have breaks and on her off days she volunteers at an animal hospital.
Since I couldn't move towards anything, me and her just flirted the rest of the day when we had the chance.
I too tired to type out the many other interactions so I'll do it tomorrow.
I ran into a girl I had a crush on last semester and she was with her boyfriend. I was all over her and he was there watching unable to do anything. I got him to take a picture of me and her with my arm around her. The story is kind of funny so I really want to post it tomorrow.
