Interpreting eye contact

[JM6789]

Hello all,

So I've been talking to this coworker of mine and I'm not sure how to interpret the eye contact she gives. When we're talking, she'll make eye contact, hold it for a bit (definitely longer than most people), break it off, re-establish eye contact, and the cycle repeats. Most of the time she'll be smiling and our conversation is flowing well. I'm just a bit confused by this because I was under the impression that holding eye contact during a conversation is merely a signal of politeness and respecting the other person. When someone breaks eye contact, I typically see this as a sign of disinterest but then she'll keep looking back again. This girl in particular is a bit shy, but receptive to conversation and very friendly. How should I interpret this to help me use eye contact to engage with women in the future?

Thanks

 

[Mike&Ikes]

I would suggest not looking at a single aspect and reaching a conclusion on that alone, like eye contact. Look at her body language, is she compliant, receptive to touch? If one thing is incongruent with other aspects of how she’s acting, I certainly wouldn’t discount the whole thing.

But from what you’ve said, she’s shy so that explains her eye contact. But like I said, don’t get hung up on any one thing, and just keep moving the interaction forward; focus on results not reactions.

Good luck!
-Mike