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Drck

Cro-Magnon Man
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Ok, confused about this one... It is quite difficult to track her investment - anytime she does something for me, leans towards, buys me a drink, hands me her hand and so on... She usually expect some action back.

I meet several women and they are generaly "nice". Thus they invest, but it is just impossible to tract their investments. My experience is, they invest some, then they pull away waiting for my reaction. Then they invest some more, or maybe stop investing at all - unless I invest back into them.

Maybe she hands me her hand once, and then she is hesitant to do it again if I don't react to it... Or, if I don't e.g. buy her a drink back, she simply stops investing. On the other hand, if I invest first, e.g. touch her hand several times, she is more willing and open to invest back by touching. My impression is that she feels more comfortable touching back if I first touched her several times. Unfortunatelly I end up being the one who does more investing... On the other hand, if she is in auto rejection and I keep investing and investing, she usually comes back. If I stop investing, she is gone forever.

To me the investing rather seems like trading, in a sense "I give you this and you give me that". I've never come across woman that would be investing and investing without getting anything (or very little) back, rather she falls quickly into auto-rejection and if I don't do anything she is gone.

Am I missing something?
 
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Tribal Elder
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Hi Drck,

What you need to do is "Reward" her for her investment, so that she feels acknowledge.
If she leans forward, you lean forward a bit too, and give her your time.
If she gives you her hand, then do something with that hand.
If she buys you a drink, take it, and spend time with her and give her your full attention. Compliment her. Then maybe offer her a drink after too.

You need to think of it as: She invest, I'll reward her.

You do need to invest too, but your investment should appear effortless.
 
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