IOIs but cant close..

[Anonymous]

girl intiates conversation shows interest agrees to going out..as soon as i try to make a solid game plan, what are you up to this weekend? not much might work saturday, you? off fri/sat so figured id see what your up to maybe we can work something out..nothing..this happened twice so why would she reach out to me, seem enthusiastic about making plans even asking about details..and have a pattern of as soon as i try to set a solid date going ghost with no response...it seems kind of ignorant almost..each time it happens i show no reaction to it but momentum is slowing down and i feel like i might have to go for a more bold approach.. ill give it a couple days and ill initate a lil back and forth text and say..so like i was saying if you were up to it this weekend theres this place i kind of wanted to check out ect ect..and nothing.....whats the deal? its not another guy or a lack of interest plenty of IOIs but anti follow through...hm im not getting into details of exact texts cause i feel no need to psychoanaylaze the details but the situation in general cant figure it out..

 

[Tyme2k]

Biggest problem, as usual, you are talking about one girl. If you are texting 100 girls I can promise atleast 1-50 will meet up with you. She can probably sense she's the only one.

If this is not the case, and you are texting multiple girls, then something in your initial interaction is off, you are coming off incongruent, you don't get any investment, or your not screening(bf, sexual, adventurous, etc.).

You will have to go back to the beginning and make sure you're getting the most out of your initial interaction. They should be waiting for you to text them, and trust me if you do everything right and they are in a place where they want to meet a guy, they will not avoid your meetup. They will do everything they can to make sure it happens, like ask you logistical questions.

I can be interested in something, but I have no intention of buying.. You get me? You have to convince me this is something I want, knowck me off the fence as Chase puts it.

 

[dvjackson]

Instead of being vague and wishy-washy with all the "hey maybe we could do something this weekend" make direct plans... "i'm going to [some place] tomorrow night, want to come?"