Is it better to escalate with the girl on top while in bed?

[GeneralFap]

Ive been thinking that it would be better to let the girl on top of you when you start kissing instead of you because it would make her seem like shes the one pursuing you. I feel like when youre escalating while on top she might get intimidated and give more resistance. Anyone ever notice a difference between the two?

 

[Chase]

General Fap-

My overall experience has been girls resist more when they're on top.

My suspicion is the person on top feels like she is in charge. So she feels more confident to deflect, deny, resist, etc.

When she's underneath, there's more of that girly "surrender" feeling. So she's more likely to comply and go with it.

Another downside to "girl on top" is it's usually quite hard to reach her vagina. Which is really the primary spot you should be escalating towards. It's easier to play with breasts when she's on top, but I usually try to ignore breasts altogether until my cock is in her (at which point, if she isn't topless already, I will get her topless, because I want her breasts out).

That said, I've had a few fun experiences escalating with girls on top. It's not horrible or anything.

If you're interested in it, I'd suggest you try this position out. Maybe you'll find girl on top works better for you. Different things work differently for different men.

Chase

 

[Fuck This]

I've been real leary of any escalation that could make the woman feel trapped or forced into sex against her will. That includes escalating while "on top". It is an art to have a woman begging you to take the next step to escalate. It is better to back off a little early than to push it too long.

More or less, you offer an escalation as you see her becoming aroused, and she should say "Yes Please!" with her actions.
Rather than asking "Hey you want more ? Huh.? huh? how about now? hmmmm?"

See the difference?

My general positioning is one that allows the woman to expose her vulnerability while being held. More or less one arm around behind her with one hand and my mouth hitting the erogenous parts. This usually culminates into her pulling me into the superior position to go PIV.

I really believe that the first time you bed a girl it has to be more gentle and loving with her urging the escalation. You can ramp up the intensity and switch to more dominant positions on subsequent episodes.

 

[lux7]

Ive been thinking that it would be better to let the girl on top of you when you start kissing instead of you because it would make her seem like shes the one pursuing you. I feel like when youre escalating while on top she might get intimidated and give more resistance. Anyone ever notice a difference between the two?

The bad thing about going on top soon is that you can make her feel under assault. But escalating with her on top relinquishes all your power.

Switching from on top, to the side, to lower than her as you pull off some garments is probably best.