Is Ryan Gosling a good role model?

[Captain CornontheCob]

Hey guys, got a question but not sure where to post it so I put it in general,

Anyway, So some girls love Ryan. Which is great, for me anyway because I have been searching for men to emulate. Looked up some interviews on youtube(specifically on talkshows) on Ryan and found that my personality I should say is exactly like his.

Some girls fall for him just like for me,speaks matter of factly, is humble, he doesn't laugh at his jokes or sometimes even make jokes and people will laugh heartily like me and when asked questions will give a small answer like me. It just seems like he gets such a big reaction from people without trying like me( even gets mancrushes from men he speaks with, and a few of my guy friends also have mancrushes for him,weird). Those are the pros but there are also cons. Senior people who interview him treat him like a kid or try to distance themselves from him( like David Lettermen). Some people say he is awkward. Which confuses me because how can you be awkward and girls say you are sexy?

All the same things happen to me. When I meet new people sometimes it seems like they love me and look up to me. Girls say I am sexy but some will also say I am awkward. Older men try not to speak to me unlike people a little older, younger, same than me. The thing that irks me the most is the disrespect; I sometimes get treated like a little kid who needs help just like Ryan(mostly from seniors) even when I don't. So i got a few questions?

1.) I am just like Ryan, so I guess I have a hard time detecting what is awkward about him. Why do people say he is?

2.)How can I keep the pros and eliminate the cons of his and my personality?

3.)Do you feel like he is a good role model to emulate for being a seducer?

Anyway I look forward to all of your guys comments and answers, and if you need to look up his behavior youtube is a good place!

Edit:here are some vids http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VfsZHJEkilQ,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4plEJMopitg,http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3oEGOSLqROs

 

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming you're talking about Ryan Gosling as a person, not the actor, am I right?

Movie stars and celebrities are all human too. They're flawed, imperfect beings like us. That being said, part of what gives these men such large appeal, to women, is that they play roles that are meant to draw interest from women. They play romantic, sexy, heroic characters, and women will attribute these traits to not just the characters they play, but also the actor himself, ala George Clooney (you almost always see him playing a strong, silent type whose a savant with women). I have found that, personally, the women I talk with, whenever the topic of male celebrity arises, have mixed thoughts. Some really love him. Others could care less.

Of course they cannot attract all women. What one woman finds attractive and endearing, another will find repulsive. Some people find one man's quirks charming, while others will dislike him, calling him awkward or weird. The key is, what are the universally attractive character traits they possess? Many of these actors do possess some of the traits of the characters they play. But often, they have the benefit of having the traits of the character they play projected onto them by women. And of course, having a certain facial structure, money for nice clothes and having fame only boosts their relative value in women's eyes.

I'm willing to bet, barring being a very good looking guy, along with other physical/monetary advantages, these men would not have nearly the same effect on women if they were "ordinary" men walking down the street.

As for Ryan Gosling being a good role model for seduction, if his style generates success for you, by all means, continue emulating. But never limit yourself. Take what you find works for you, and keep evolving. Keep improving and moving forward.

 

[Franco]

Hey Captain CotC,

Following up with what J.J. has mentioned here, I find that it is never helpful to mimic an actor's actual personality. Like J.J. mentioned, women usually swoon over these men because of some "role" they've played in a movie, and this is how these women fantasize about these men -- they way they are in that role.

Also, I remember seeing a comment on one of Ricardus's blogs where a reader asked, "How is Justin Timberlake so good with women? He was with X, Y, and Z, and he continues to get new women like every week..." Ricardus's answer: "Simple, he's famous. Fame is the ultimate aphrodisiac."

There's a lot of truth to this statement. If these were just average, good-looking guys without the fame to back them up, you would find they would actually struggle with a lot of the intricacies of dealing with women and relationships. However, "fame" has provided them with absolute abundance, so they never have to learn these intricacies because a new woman is always around the corner willing to pounce on them without having to put forth any effort to make them do so.

If you want to emulate anyone, you might want to consider emulating the actual "characters" these actors play in movies... for example, emulating Pierce Brosnan or Daniel Craig playing the role of "James Bond" or emulating George Clooney in any of his roles where he seduces women. You can learn more from the men they portray in these movies than you can from the actual actors themselves.

Hope this helps!

Cheers,

Franco

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Hey Captain CotC,

Following up with what J.J. has mentioned here, I find that it is never helpful to mimic an actor's actual personality. Like J.J. mentioned, women usually swoon over these men because of some "role" they've played in a movie, and this is how these women fantasize about these men -- they way they are in that role.

Also, I remember seeing a comment on one of Ricardus's blogs where a reader asked, "How is Justin Timberlake so good with women? He was with X, Y, and Z, and he continues to get new women like every week..." Ricardus's answer: "Simple, he's famous. Fame is the ultimate aphrodisiac."

There's a lot of truth to this statement. If these were just average, good-looking guys without the fame to back them up, you would find they would actually struggle with a lot of the intricacies of dealing with women and relationships. However, "fame" has provided them with absolute abundance, so they never have to learn these intricacies because a new woman is always around the corner willing to pounce on them without having to put forth any effort to make them do so.

If you want to emulate anyone, you might want to consider emulating the actual "characters" these actors play in movies... for example, emulating Pierce Brosnan or Daniel Craig playing the role of "James Bond" or emulating George Clooney in any of his roles where he seduces women. You can learn more from the men they portray in these movies than you can from the actual actors themselves.

Hope this helps!

Cheers,

Franco

I wonder what would happen if someone who was already really good with women managed to become famous. The girls probably wouldn't stand a chance, lol.