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So I got a text from a girl I met yesterday telling me that "I'm not sure you and I are looking for the same thing, you seem very sweet but maybe incompatible in a few places."
My friend and wingman said that this was a shit test and said I should respond "I understand, when would you like to meet next?"
I am not convinced this is a shit test, rather than her trying to communicate. I am curious to ask her what she thinks I am looking for to get a sense of what I am doing wrong (though the "sweet" gives me a big clue). She was more fun than most girls to talk to and might make a good pivot. Any thoughts on how I should read this?
For context: We got to the date together, and she paid since I drove (telling me I could get next time). Then after talking for 30-40 mins and lots of kino on her leg, some prolonged, she initiates the move (I was going to in a bit). I suggest we go back to my place for tea and music and she agrees. We get there and I start making the tea, we look at my movie collection from my bed, and find we like a lot of the same films. I suggest watching one, and she tells me she is not in the proper mood. I am feeling it, so I set next to her, and kiss her. She takes it, but unlike most of my kisses I have these days, she doesn't get into it (like kissing a statue with unmoving lips), and it lasts a second. I get the sense that to continue would have been forcing myself on her. She tells me that I am very forward, and I agree not knowing what else to say. We talk a little more, then I kiss again, and it is the same. She then moves to leave, saying she is feeling overwhelmed by the place after a long day and two tests, and that she has had bad experiences though she thinks I am very sweet and wants to hang out again. I try to get her to stay for the tea we were suppose to have, but she insists. I drive her home, more kino, and when I move to hug her as she get out, she instead kisses me 2x more, this time slightly more into it, but her lips barely moving, so it is impossible to prolong. This morning we made tentative plans to hang out this afternoon, before she sent me that text.
I was kind of slotting her into a fun FWB category in my head. Super fun to hang out with but not what I would want in a girlfriend.
My friend and wingman said that this was a shit test and said I should respond "I understand, when would you like to meet next?"
I am not convinced this is a shit test, rather than her trying to communicate. I am curious to ask her what she thinks I am looking for to get a sense of what I am doing wrong (though the "sweet" gives me a big clue). She was more fun than most girls to talk to and might make a good pivot. Any thoughts on how I should read this?
For context: We got to the date together, and she paid since I drove (telling me I could get next time). Then after talking for 30-40 mins and lots of kino on her leg, some prolonged, she initiates the move (I was going to in a bit). I suggest we go back to my place for tea and music and she agrees. We get there and I start making the tea, we look at my movie collection from my bed, and find we like a lot of the same films. I suggest watching one, and she tells me she is not in the proper mood. I am feeling it, so I set next to her, and kiss her. She takes it, but unlike most of my kisses I have these days, she doesn't get into it (like kissing a statue with unmoving lips), and it lasts a second. I get the sense that to continue would have been forcing myself on her. She tells me that I am very forward, and I agree not knowing what else to say. We talk a little more, then I kiss again, and it is the same. She then moves to leave, saying she is feeling overwhelmed by the place after a long day and two tests, and that she has had bad experiences though she thinks I am very sweet and wants to hang out again. I try to get her to stay for the tea we were suppose to have, but she insists. I drive her home, more kino, and when I move to hug her as she get out, she instead kisses me 2x more, this time slightly more into it, but her lips barely moving, so it is impossible to prolong. This morning we made tentative plans to hang out this afternoon, before she sent me that text.
I was kind of slotting her into a fun FWB category in my head. Super fun to hang out with but not what I would want in a girlfriend.