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So in addition to a longstanding difficulty with giving girls vaginal orgasm in the adapted missionary... which I've counterbalanced by being great at giving clitoral orgasms and usually giving her several after I come myself... I've lately had another issue with my current gf which is a bit strange.
She is/was quite sexually repressed due to being a Catholic and from a highly conservative culture, which has unpredictable results, acts as an intensifier in some ways, she is always as horny as fuck and needs lots of sex and expresses herself very sexually now that she knows I will encourage her and not judge... but she won't masturbate, I gave her some massage oil to take home and told her to rub it on her clit while thinking of me, she won't do it (or won't admit to it), believes masturbation is a sin. Problem is that as soon as my dick's inside her it's like a licence for her to do the masturbation she should be doing on her own time to get to know her body, since it's not technically masturbation if my dick is inside her, hahaha. I have encouraged this in the past b/c I want her to open up and be sexual with me, trouble is her fingernails are quite sharp and I also find the position a bit awkward and inevitably go soft after some time. I'm not sure how to change it up without sending mixed messages or cancelling the progress already made. ATM I feel I can't use my favourite position, and that causes me some issues.
With her on top it's also slightly problematic, she rubs her pussy against me in a back-and-forth motion which is nice and I can certainly feel my dick inside her, but I'd prefer an up-and-down motion so I could feel my dick going in and out, if she does this she gets carried away and starts to pound me really fucking hard until she exhausts herself and/or I go soft. It's not performance anxiety, I just withdraw, and have her play with me until I'm hard again and then climb back on, but she is starting to wonder if there's an issue I think, she asked me what had happened and I just said its fine, having trouble finding the position that works for me, just keep going... but I may be getting in my head a bit, what to do??
Ray
She is/was quite sexually repressed due to being a Catholic and from a highly conservative culture, which has unpredictable results, acts as an intensifier in some ways, she is always as horny as fuck and needs lots of sex and expresses herself very sexually now that she knows I will encourage her and not judge... but she won't masturbate, I gave her some massage oil to take home and told her to rub it on her clit while thinking of me, she won't do it (or won't admit to it), believes masturbation is a sin. Problem is that as soon as my dick's inside her it's like a licence for her to do the masturbation she should be doing on her own time to get to know her body, since it's not technically masturbation if my dick is inside her, hahaha. I have encouraged this in the past b/c I want her to open up and be sexual with me, trouble is her fingernails are quite sharp and I also find the position a bit awkward and inevitably go soft after some time. I'm not sure how to change it up without sending mixed messages or cancelling the progress already made. ATM I feel I can't use my favourite position, and that causes me some issues.
With her on top it's also slightly problematic, she rubs her pussy against me in a back-and-forth motion which is nice and I can certainly feel my dick inside her, but I'd prefer an up-and-down motion so I could feel my dick going in and out, if she does this she gets carried away and starts to pound me really fucking hard until she exhausts herself and/or I go soft. It's not performance anxiety, I just withdraw, and have her play with me until I'm hard again and then climb back on, but she is starting to wonder if there's an issue I think, she asked me what had happened and I just said its fine, having trouble finding the position that works for me, just keep going... but I may be getting in my head a bit, what to do??
Ray
