Hi Guys,
I've been an avid reader of the website and recently (after sucking it in), decided to change my life around by approaching girls. I usually do situational openers, since direct openers are still something I dare not try yet, but I foresee myself doing so in the near future.
Recently I met this girl in the library. She sat beside me and I opened. We had a fun conversation and I got her number, and successfully set up a date.
For the date, I decided to go date-compression. I was planning to have dinner with her downtown and visit the nearby bookstore (changing venues) since I have an interest in reading and decided it would probably be a good way to show value (knowledgeable, and also a test as I like my girls to be book-lovers). Second date is to ask her for drinks then invite her back to my place for a movie *wink*
The dinner went well and I could sense she liked me, she was genuinely smiling and we were playfully touching each other. She paid for the meal despite me trying to go dutch, I told her I will get drinks next time.
After that, we went to the bookstore. We were having fun looking through the books and that was where it somehow went wrong. She mentioned that there was a book she had been meaning to read, and we found the book. I told her that as payment for the meal, I'd like to buy her the book. She became very resistant to me doing so, saying it will be easier to reserve it from the library. I was surprised at the amount of fervent resistance she gave when I told her I will like to buy it for her. I'm still relatively inexperienced, so at that moment I didn't know how to give her a speech about me not expecting anything in return from her, it is just my way of thanking her for the dinner and this is what I do.
In any case, after that incident, I could sense that she became slightly distant and there was an awkward air between us, though it was not so bad that we had to end the date immediately. We carried on browsing books, and left our separate ways.
After, as I was texting her asking her if she enjoyed herself, here's what she said:
"I enjoyed myself and your company, but after giving some thought, i feel that we're not suitable. If you don't mind we can still stay as friends
"
I don't intend to keep in contact with her, but I'd like to know for this situation, what was the mistake I made that made her lose attraction for me? And why was she so resistant against me doing things for her (paying the bill, buying her a book as repayment?)
Thanks for all your help!
I've been an avid reader of the website and recently (after sucking it in), decided to change my life around by approaching girls. I usually do situational openers, since direct openers are still something I dare not try yet, but I foresee myself doing so in the near future.
Recently I met this girl in the library. She sat beside me and I opened. We had a fun conversation and I got her number, and successfully set up a date.
For the date, I decided to go date-compression. I was planning to have dinner with her downtown and visit the nearby bookstore (changing venues) since I have an interest in reading and decided it would probably be a good way to show value (knowledgeable, and also a test as I like my girls to be book-lovers). Second date is to ask her for drinks then invite her back to my place for a movie *wink*
The dinner went well and I could sense she liked me, she was genuinely smiling and we were playfully touching each other. She paid for the meal despite me trying to go dutch, I told her I will get drinks next time.
After that, we went to the bookstore. We were having fun looking through the books and that was where it somehow went wrong. She mentioned that there was a book she had been meaning to read, and we found the book. I told her that as payment for the meal, I'd like to buy her the book. She became very resistant to me doing so, saying it will be easier to reserve it from the library. I was surprised at the amount of fervent resistance she gave when I told her I will like to buy it for her. I'm still relatively inexperienced, so at that moment I didn't know how to give her a speech about me not expecting anything in return from her, it is just my way of thanking her for the dinner and this is what I do.
In any case, after that incident, I could sense that she became slightly distant and there was an awkward air between us, though it was not so bad that we had to end the date immediately. We carried on browsing books, and left our separate ways.
After, as I was texting her asking her if she enjoyed herself, here's what she said:
"I enjoyed myself and your company, but after giving some thought, i feel that we're not suitable. If you don't mind we can still stay as friends
"I don't intend to keep in contact with her, but I'd like to know for this situation, what was the mistake I made that made her lose attraction for me? And why was she so resistant against me doing things for her (paying the bill, buying her a book as repayment?)
Thanks for all your help!
