Hey Guys,
I'm new to the forum. I've read girls chase for a while and applied lots of the information on fundamentals. I got a decent hair cut, some facial hair, lost a lot of body fat, and substantially improved my fashion sense. I am a lot more confident. However, I am not getting the results that I want, and am not where I want to be with girls right now. This is a result of my lack of cold approaches, and interactions with girls, because I am not getting enough opportunities for me to succeed and improve. By creating this journal I hope to create clear goals and objectives, and have some pressure to achieve them by having them publicly visible.
Problem:
-I have approach anxiety. I see a girl that I find attractive, and often catch girls looking at me, however, I do not approach them. Sometimes even the idea of going out and approaching girls makes me anxious. However, if I feel very confident when talking to girls that I meet via friends or work, or even when talking to girls that work in shops.
-I never go out at night to bars. I plan to, but I always become to scarred and anxious and stay in.
-I do not schedule times to go out and approach girls during the day. I will often see girls that I find attractive when I leave the house, but I always use the excuse that I am going somewhere and am therefore too busy to approach. In the long run my goal is that I will approach a girl no matter what I am doing, but at this stage I think having scheduled times in which I approach is important.
-I also feel that I masturbate, and use too much porn. This has had a negative affect as I lose the drive to interact with women. I have repeatedly tried to quit pornography and failed, and tried to go for periods without masturbation. I haven't used pornography in a month. I went for a period of 11 days without masturbating. I felt supercharged. However, I broke.
Solution:
-Aim for one cold approach per day.
-Have scheduled outings for each day in which I will approach girls. Have a specific location, time and the type of approach that I will use.
-My aim is to go for 30 days without masturbating, as it will hopefully incentivise me to approach and overcome my approach anxiety.
Day 1: Monday/Tomorrow
Aim is to approach on girl.
Location is a street near where I live that is fairly busy.
Time is between 12 and 1. This is more than enough time.
I will use an indirect direct approach. I will ask her where Starbucks is, and then follow it up with a compliment.
I'm new to the forum. I've read girls chase for a while and applied lots of the information on fundamentals. I got a decent hair cut, some facial hair, lost a lot of body fat, and substantially improved my fashion sense. I am a lot more confident. However, I am not getting the results that I want, and am not where I want to be with girls right now. This is a result of my lack of cold approaches, and interactions with girls, because I am not getting enough opportunities for me to succeed and improve. By creating this journal I hope to create clear goals and objectives, and have some pressure to achieve them by having them publicly visible.
Problem:
-I have approach anxiety. I see a girl that I find attractive, and often catch girls looking at me, however, I do not approach them. Sometimes even the idea of going out and approaching girls makes me anxious. However, if I feel very confident when talking to girls that I meet via friends or work, or even when talking to girls that work in shops.
-I never go out at night to bars. I plan to, but I always become to scarred and anxious and stay in.
-I do not schedule times to go out and approach girls during the day. I will often see girls that I find attractive when I leave the house, but I always use the excuse that I am going somewhere and am therefore too busy to approach. In the long run my goal is that I will approach a girl no matter what I am doing, but at this stage I think having scheduled times in which I approach is important.
-I also feel that I masturbate, and use too much porn. This has had a negative affect as I lose the drive to interact with women. I have repeatedly tried to quit pornography and failed, and tried to go for periods without masturbation. I haven't used pornography in a month. I went for a period of 11 days without masturbating. I felt supercharged. However, I broke.
Solution:
-Aim for one cold approach per day.
-Have scheduled outings for each day in which I will approach girls. Have a specific location, time and the type of approach that I will use.
-My aim is to go for 30 days without masturbating, as it will hopefully incentivise me to approach and overcome my approach anxiety.
Day 1: Monday/Tomorrow
Aim is to approach on girl.
Location is a street near where I live that is fairly busy.
Time is between 12 and 1. This is more than enough time.
I will use an indirect direct approach. I will ask her where Starbucks is, and then follow it up with a compliment.
